Has anyone found themselves having a baby, alone, after years of single parenting? How do you feel about it? I was engaged for a couple of years but the relationship has ended and now Im pregnant in my mid thirties. I dont know how I will feel when the baby comes. Will I really feel an attatchment to the baby? My two teenagers have caused me alot of problems over the years. My oldest has some behaviour/attention issues. Frankly Im glad hes almost grown. Im scared of re-experiencing all that over again. Parenting hasnt been the 'rich and rewarding' wonderful motherhood experience that some people seem to get....mine has been a hard hard struggle. Had I known my ex fiance was going to 'ditch', I never would have agreed to have another baby (this baby was planned)...now he cheated...and bailed out.. and Im facing single parenthood all over again. Im scared. What can I do to prepare my mind and heart? Baby is coming in a month or so!
2006-11-19 09:27:45 · 4 answers · asked by paradox is interesting 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I can't say much but my mom had me at 36 when she was single and now I'm 20 and I think she handled it pretty well. Good luck!
2006-11-19 09:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similiar situation as you, I am 32 my daughter is 13 and I am 2 months pregnant, the father of the new baby is quite a bit younger than me and wanted me to have an abortion but i can't bring myselft to go through with it. He has pretty much avoided me since. I wish that I could have done it right this time (marriage, money etc) but that is not the case. I am scared as well but I know I will be fine with or without him. I don't know how old you were when you had your other children but I am looking at this as a chance to really enjoy my new baby the first one I was young and scared and couldnt really apreciate her as a baby, now that I am older and have done this before I am looking forward to it, even if I have to do it alone. Try not to focus on the negative and look at like the begining of a new life for you and your family. Who knows maybe having a little brother or sister will help your older kids behavior issues, wanting to be a good role model or feeling responsible for a little person etc
Good luck with everything!
2006-11-20 01:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is quite an age gap between children. I think that will only result in your children having a hard time bonding. My brother and I are 8 years apart and that alone is very very hard. I see him as a child that I have to babysit more then a brother. But as far as you being able to bond with your child.. I really don't think there will be too much of an issue. Just make sure you don't let the problems that you have with your ex fiance being carried out onto your new child. =) I'm sorry to hear that you have to go this alone again. I couldn't ever imagine having to do this alone. It's so hard doing this when you have someone. You sound like a strong woman and I think you will be able to pull through. Just look for support in your friends and family and I think everything will go just fine. Oh and as far as behavioral issues happening again in your new child, that's very hard to say. Everyone has their own mind and their own problems and there is only so much you can do to steer them in the right direction. There's no way to tell how this child will be. Just stay strong and patient and your hard work will pay off. Best Wishes Sweetie. Good luck.
2006-11-19 17:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Beth, Jon, And Baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i raised my three girls alone...ages 20, almost 16 and 8 years. it's the toughest job i have ever done, but also the most rewarding. i didn't have the best of childhoods, so i swore i'd raise my children differently. if you are that apprehensive about this child, consider adoption. personally, i just "bucked up" and did the best i could with what i had. good luck.
2006-11-19 17:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋