Every friendship + reationaship i have ended up being manipulaqted by men either physically or emotionally. Even friendships have been messed up by sex. Ok it takes 2, but i dont like seeeing a mate who i have a real good laugh with turn into a well.....a sheep....loved up...wet........CHANGED!!!!! LOL....well im half laughing but serious at the same time ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!!
2006-11-19 09:06:34 · 8 answers · asked by cosmic_superbean13 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Difficult.You are easily available that is the problem.No body can have sex with out your consent.You enjoy and then blame it is manipulation.With so many experiences,you must be able to distinguish between true relationship and sexual relations.But basically what man looks into woman is more sex and availability.Make yours restricted.Make yourself not pliable.Don't make available on bed after a peg.Physical abuse /sex exploitation you can prevent.Do not repeat past mistakes.Emotional manipulation less preventable.Agreed.but you can try the friendship for a time.Do not make one night friendships.Screen your would be friends.Identify sex mongers and avoid them.Start a new life.good Luck.You can do it.
2006-11-19 22:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you have psychological qualities which attract manipulative people. Pia Mellody in her book "Facing love addiction" talks about how Love Addicts are usually drawn to Love Avoidants.
About two years ago, I was drawn towards a young guy. The friendship started as an email one, and then I met him. I was completely "attracted" to him and then things went nasty and he accused me of being a "manipulative control freak". Whilst I did indeed possess these nasty qualities at the time, this particular guy was also manipulating me - but more discreetly. I wasn' the first person to go on the merry go round with this guy.
This particular event was very troubling for me. However, I have been taking great steps in tackling this problem, and am continuing to learn a great deal. Basically, you have to change the way you love people.
2006-11-20 16:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have a problem with your self esteem. You might subconsciously crave love and attention so much that you are willing to do anything to get it. You used the words "messed up by sex" so in your heart of hearts, you know this kind of sex is only a mess, which does your self-esteem nothing. You really have to try to break this pattern by building up your self esteem and making sure the men in your life know that you deserve their respect and you don't want to be used or treated as a sex object. Ask yourself are you giving out the wrong signals by flirting inappropriately, by allowing men to get too close physically, by getting drunk, by behaving too desperately? As you say, these things take two. You don't have to allow these things to happen to you and spoil your friendship (it is NOT a friendship if your male friends use you for sex!) with men, if you really don't want them to happen. If you have no confidence in your self-control, then maybe you can do something to avoid getting yourself into awkward situations. These include not meeting up with a male friend alone in the evening, not letting him come to your place alone, not going to his place on your own...I am not being prudish or jealous of you getting so much attention from men but I honestly believe that if you allow so much unwanted sex to take place, you will feel cheap and used in the long run. Save yourself for someone who love and respect you and feel committed to your relationship with him.
2006-11-19 17:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what are you saying about but i can help you!! this is your lucky day even there's not such thing in luck. i can help you. there's lies that piece people off.By there's lies you can tell by body league
that can help you. You can not Jude people in the outside you Jude them in the inside for an example a male/female friend you get to know them better.Then you ask them to be you boy/girlfriend anyways if you Jude people in the outside you are so going 2 b in big trouble because you don't know him/her well go 2 go now GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-19 17:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by planetjupiterboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youo just have to find the right guy ok? Take your time though... I'm working on that same problem now...
2006-11-19 17:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by Life-Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ran out of questions and do not want to open a new account so soon so i will start asking questions on questions:can a dog be taught to attack homos if so a need some homos to come to my house and get chewed on by my new attack dog
2006-11-19 17:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Be nice and sincere
2006-11-20 23:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by yusdz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbation?
2006-11-19 17:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by laurence c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋