I've always felt like I couldn't get close to people (like my friends) and I tend to keep much to myself because I don't really trust anyone. It's been affecting me, because recently I get very depressed when I realize that I don't have anyone to talk to (like a best friend or a boyfriend). I know I'm not actually depressed, but what could possibly be wrong and how could I fix it?
2006-11-19 09:05:56 · 15 answers · asked by tinamillsx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to people. You don't have to reveal your innermost secrets but it wouldnt hurt to share little things about you.
I've been through the same thing.
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2006-11-19 09:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to find out if you're really clinically depressed. If you are the whole keeping to yourself is because you're depressed.
I really can't tell you much seeing as I'm the same but sometimes you don't get along with people you used to because you're getting older. You might not trust them because you feel like they are stangers BECAUSE they don't seem to make you feel the comfort you used to have with them.
It's hard to find "new friends" but what you need to do is just hang out with people that interest you more. OR you can talk to your friends about your problems. If they really are your friends they will try to help you. I dunno want else to say.
Just hang in there and keep busy. I mean do something to keep your mind off depression because it's not a good place to be and it can mess up your life for a while.
2006-11-19 17:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nana Medina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's actually nothing wrong w/you. If there's a trust issue it's because the people in your life have let you down. You only get depressed because you have probably always been there for them and they haven't been there for you a true friend would sense this. Better to find new friends if this is possible, if not just smile @ someone who needs one when you need 1 it'll be there, a stranger. Life gets this way sometimes. Don't give up, Chin up everything will be okay, God Bless............
2006-11-19 17:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have been in that exact spot. My mom raised me not to make friends b/c she said it always leads to them hurting you in the long run. So high school was torture. But when I moved out, I learned that life is much better/funner with friends. I turned into a much happier person, and I felt like I had things to look forward to. But it's hard, cause I'm shy, so it was super hard for me to "get out there" and make friends. But once I tried, I had all kinds of new people wanting to talk to me cause I wasn't a half bad person. But do be on your toes, there are bad people out there, been taken advantage of alot, you have to learn to weed out the users and losers. There is nothing wrong with you, you just need to learn to trust a little bit at a time.
Always remember, In your lifetime you can know thousands of people, but you will only have a handful of TRUE FRIENDS.
2006-11-19 17:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by redrose2427 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you can't trust ppl tell your family im sure they'll understand and help you out. and if you want a bf or a best friend you should at least try opening up a little. i mean you gatta take risks and get out there before you know it you'll have a best friend(s) and a buy friend. and if you feel depressed you should get some friends and if you careful in choosing them you could end up being freinds with them for life! hope you choose my advice! ^_^ good luck!!
2006-11-19 17:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by xoxo to joey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do not open up to people very easily because you don't trust them. That is understandable. My advice is to first search for someone that you can talk to. And if you fail, talk to someone on the internet that you know can't judge you because they don't even know you. Be careful who you talk to though. The internet can be a dangerous place.
2006-11-19 17:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by fiyera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have social anxiety. My roommate in college had that and she was a lot like you. You should speak to a doctor about it. I don't think you're depressed, but you should see a doctor. He'll be able to give you some options regarding treatment. It's pretty common among young adults. You're not alone.
2006-11-19 17:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take an anti-depressant
2006-11-19 17:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by CL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity about yourself. i'm the same way, but i always feel like someone is looking me over or wondering if i am good enough to be in their company.
2006-11-19 17:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in denial. You are depressed. Talk to your Dr.!
2006-11-19 17:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋