Is it me or is it him? Heres the thing, whenever we get into an argument, he will twist everything around...my words to make me look like the ***** and him the victim.
Just recently we (he) had a bunch of money come his way, we (he) spent most of it on stuff we didnt actually need, and before we got this money I told him he needed to pay the bills and pay people back (he said he would, and never eeally did) now today he is blaming me for making him spnd his money on these things (when I in fact was the one who told him to pay bills and people back) He is making me look like te bad guy and today he is very moody...since I cannot tell him waht to do with his money I couldnt force him to do the bills thing...now he is taking it out on me, and I dont know what to do or say to him, because he is being very snarky and moody to me.
2006-11-19 09:01:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's trying to make you feel like you are in the wrong. Sounds like Domestic Violence. Sorry.
2006-11-19 09:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is feeling guilty because he knows he is in the wrong and he is doing whatever he can to take the focus off of him. That includes turning things around to make it look as though you are the one to blame for all of his mess-ups. During an argument, try not to let him shift the focus on you. Keep it on him (if he is the one in the wrong). Good luck!
2006-11-19 17:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty but if you want to help him feel better or better the situation. Take the stuff back (you still have receipts, right?) and you do want things to be better. Take it back and do what he should've done w/ it. I don't know if you are married or just b/f/G/f but if you are married, there is no such thing as "HIS" money, what's his is yours and what's yours is yours! l.ol.j/k but what his is yours. There's no "I" in "Us". Handle the debt b/c if you are married, his actions is reflective on you. If he can't get himself better financially it will only get worse, if he doesn't grow up; you'll have to grow out and leave him. may I recommend Suzeorman.com. She has great financial tips and a step by step guide for the YFB- Young Fabolous and Broke, to get your financials in order and your credit score up.
2006-11-19 17:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there with 2 of my 3 kids, my mom, a few boyfriends and my ex. That is why he is my ex!! Listen, but ignore his moodiness etc. He is mad at himself not u!! It is his $, are the bills in his name only???? Live your life and let him sink. He needs to grow up and see what he is doing to himself and others. People will see him for who he is eventually.
2006-11-19 17:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got yourself a classic manipulator on your hands. This type is able to twist anything around to his advantage to make you look like a blithering idiot. There is no cure for this, either, as he BELIEVES himself.
Run, honey - run fast and far away.
2006-11-19 17:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could not evan be bothered to read your SHlTE above.
Just get rid off him.
If your man does not treat you as a princess, then get rid of him.
If he has a "normal" prob, then so be it.
2006-11-19 17:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it was his money and you had no say in what he spends it on and to get another escape goat,cause your not playing that game no more...
2006-11-19 17:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stay away from him till he calms down
2006-11-19 17:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He knows he is wrong, he is just trying to save face. He is acting mad at you so you cannot be mad at him. Silly isn't it.
2006-11-19 18:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM TO GROW UP AND BE A MAN. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS POOR MONEY MANAGEMENT. HE NEEDS A DEBT MANAGEMENT COURSE.
2006-11-19 17:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋