My Fiance and I have been together for 4 years now. We have a baby together. I want to get married but he says why buy the cow, when you can get milk free.
He has a business but all the shots are called by this man who is like his partner The man has 29 other businesses like his but the one he owns is the one thats doing the worse because the man wont advertise for it To make a long story short the man has done nothing in 2 years My fiance is still wating for the guy to do something We are struggling to pay the bills I work from 8-5. M-F. I told him that if he wishes to wait for the man to get the bus going he should get a job but he wont We don't have health insurance we just dont have any money for anything I need braces and I cant get it But we got netflix NFL ticket and a projection TV cuz he wanted it Also I work all day and I do the clothes Dishes and clean the house and when I get home I take care of the baby He loves me a lot but thats all is keeping us together
2006-11-19 08:52:53 · 10 answers · asked by JUST ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, where do you see yourself in ten or even five years from today? Love is a wonderful thing to have but when it comes down to it, It doesn't pay the bills.
He needs to be working with you, not against you. It may seem like he is helping by taking care of the baby in the day time, but you might as well be working two jobs, because the minute you hit the door you have a baby in your arms to take care of with dishes, and clothes to wash. Your working yourself to death.
It doesn't seem like your doing so much when you know it has to be done and you've just gotten so used to doing it.
Look at the big picture! What if the baby needs that health insurance? Heaven forbid!
What if you had a sitter to take care of the baby. It would be nice to go to work, pick up the baby from the sitter, go home to a house you previously cleaned and is still clean because nobody has been sitting around making it dirty again, and then do just for yourself and the baby. A place where you don't have to pay for or watch football. I think you might find that you are not as tired or as stressed and you may even have money left over for extras.
I don't even think you can really call him your Fiance. Maybe you need a break from him. Maybe he will stop being so passive and step it up in his business affairs once he sees that you are serious.
2006-11-19 09:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your man doesn't want anything but the sex he receives. Especially since he said that comment about the 'cow' up there. I would of dumped him the second that came out of his mouth, which is a lot easier said then done because of the baby. But that's the way the cookie crumbles.
If he's too busy waiting on a loose-ended dream that won't ever come true and wants nothing but NFL tickets while your baby and you are lacking the attention then it's definitely time to move on. Braces aren't exactly a necessity, guys aren't rating you on how straight your teeth are, and even if they were they should love you for who you are, not how much sex you give them. So dump him and go find a guy that'll love you for who you are, not for your body.
2006-11-19 08:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa slow down. you have a whole run-on sentence. if you want some one to answer your questions you have to be more clear. otherwise no one will know what your talking about.
so you are saying that your fiance is waiting for a guy that already forgot about him. and he call him a business partner. you should tell your husband that he should look for some other business. and stop working with his so called 'partner'. if you talk to him again and he doesn't listen then i think you should dump him. i mean he's not taking the responsibilities of being a good father and husband. right now he is just using you. he thinks that you won't leave him and that you won't be able to live without him.
2006-11-19 09:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by jh4everl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but it sounds like he is using you... and terribly. You are supporting him, and being supportive of him. It doesn't sound like he makes very much of a contribution to your household other than creating more monthly expenses.
And he has already told you that he is not going to marry you, because you are already doing everything he wants you to do, and he has absolutely NO obligation to you.
It sounds to me like it's time for you to leave. He'll actually probably beg you not to, but you can do bad all by yourself... and I'm guessing you can do a lot better than what you're doing now... all by your self!
2006-11-19 08:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by jae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not going to marry you, he's already insulted you by making the statement about getting the milk for free...what do you really need him for? you're taking care of everything as if you were single. i think what he loves, is having someone around who is going to keep taking care of him, and not complain too much. you're worth more than that aren't you? and is that the kind of lifestyle you want your child to believe in?
2006-11-19 09:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you? If a man told me "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free" i would tell him to go find a different "cow". No offense, but what a pig.
He is using you. You slave away, while he sits on his butt......ADIOS BUDDY!
2006-11-19 08:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD NEWS!!! LEAVE somehow, any way u can. It will not get better. Lkie he said he has the cow for free. Does that make u feel good?? Take care girl!!
2006-11-19 08:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much you love him but if you are really very miserable the then do not stay with him. I would advise you to seek professional counselling.
2006-11-19 10:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Say what you just said to me. Express your feelings to him. and he will understand. you got to talk to him.
2006-11-19 08:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by amgs234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a sister i need somebody that dumb for me too?
2006-11-19 08:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋