I have only just bought a house with my fiance (we've not even moved in yet) and the other day when I dropped my son into my ex-husband's house my ex gave me a really nice shabby chique style candelabra as a house warming present. I told him to hold on to it until we have moved in and yesterday I mentioned this to my fiance, who said that he didn't want it in our house. Admittedly my ex has behaved like a bit of a nut on a couple of isolated occasions about 9 mths ago where he was ringing my fiance and hanging up, but since then nothing like that has happened. I've always tried to remain friends with my ex, especially for the sake of our son & I was very hurt to hear that my future husband has issues with him being kind enough to give us something nice for our new home. My fiance's ex wife is a parasite who only takes & doesn't even allow my fiance to see his little girl regularly or let her stay over until we are married. At least my ex is tring to be kind. It's all so unfair.
2006-11-19 08:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by gwibsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not that unfair, your fiance is creeped out by it because the guy is still in love with you.
2006-11-19 09:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know under what circumstances you got a divorce, but I can say that in my parent's past my dad got VERY jealous when my mom was moving in with her fiance (which is kind of funny b/c my dad was the one that cheated on my mom and later married the women he cheated with) Anyway, he did little things like giving my mom presents and calling her just because he was jealous of her new man. You need to be careful, though, because it did eventually run my mom's fiance off, and left her with broke heart :( She was married to my dad for 20 years, so when he started to show interest in her again, she probably took it a tad too far. Now that she's single again my dad doesn't call or anything anymore. He's such an ***.
2006-11-19 08:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your ex were both in a different head space 9 months ago. If he gave you a present then I don't see the problem. It's a nice gesture. I'm impressed you are trying to get along in order to put the needs of your child first.
The fiance has a different experience with his ex and it colors his view on the relationship you have with your ex, hence he doesn't want the candelabra around.
If you want the gift, keep it.
2006-11-19 08:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that men come equiped with the stupid gene. And strangely enough when you put 2 guys together the stupid is increased exponentially.
Give the fiance time it's the only real option.
2006-11-19 09:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, this twelve months is going to be distinctive! i could be trouble-free and write on the cardboard -"Please no delivers this twelve months. We only only choose for you!" and quite a number of alternative do no longer RSVP which i discover so disrespectful. I certainly have 2 infants and have planned many events that folk do no longer respond. in case you have a class record, call them. i could say, "Oh, i've got no longer heard from you related to the occasion, and alter into hoping which you have been coming". maximum individuals say that they forgot to respond (which i've got self belief sometimes to be real). So, you may nicely be their little reminder. With the two, i think of your daughter might have a much extra suitable time this twelve months, and you, too! stable success XO
2016-11-25 20:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should keep the gift. Its just a small token for your new house. There are no strings attached.
I think that you should try and reason with your fiance. Explain your reasons for wanting to keep the gift.
2006-11-19 09:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should of never told that. now you can't have the gift from your ex. he probably bought something from the heart that he knew you would like .
2006-11-19 09:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what would you do if his ex wife gave him a house worming gift,would you want it in your house,i don't think so.i know i would not except anything from my husbands ex if he had one.thank god he don't.
2006-11-19 09:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow just be happy in your new home with your new man...I envy you..I do!
2006-11-19 08:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋