i spoke to him for a bit over the weekend although he didnt seem particularly interested on saturday.
normally i would expect at least a hello kiss when he came in, particularly when he comes in on a weekend i dont see him...
this time nothing - i cooked him dinner and of course he didnt even say thanks then less than 2 hours from the time he came in
HE WENT TO BED------ AT 9PM!!!!
after getting all moody with me for no reason....
whats his problem??? has he gone off me????
2006-11-19 08:46:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would suggest you re-focus your energy on to yourself and your own life more and what you do in your life that gives you pleasure and enjoyment away from your boyfriend. It might be that you have allowed him to take over your life too much and this may be causing him to loose interest in you a little bit. For him to stay interested in you, you have to be interested in you and believe in yourself as a worthy and loveable person by doing things that are for your own pleasure and nothing to do with him. Therefore, to get this relationship back on track, suggest you get busy with your own projects, have him realise that he can be PART of your life but he is not the totality of your life, that you have a fulfilling and happy time whether he is there or not ... re-build your confidence by your own activities, e.g. with friends, hobbies etc. Don't expect your boyfriend to reassure you and give you confidence, you have to get that by yourself. I would say definitely don't ask him 'what's wrong', there is clearly something wrong and pushing him by asking him about it is likely just to push him further away and make your situation worse. His behaviour is kind of indicating that it might not be so much fun being with you at the moment, but you can turn things around ... focus on making sure that when you are together you and he have good, positive interactions and lots of fun. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a happy and confident woman who is good fun to be with. Good luck.
2006-11-19 21:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lulu H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no problem with you. so stop thinking hat way or he will start to control you by doing stuff like this.
just try your best to chill and dont ask him where he has been. dont go in at the deep end and start an arguement. the more you go on about it the more you will drive him away.
if he does anything like this again in the next month get very worried and have it out with him. you know him so if you think he is hiding something and what he says doesnt add up make him move out.
im sorry but my dad used to do this when he was sleeping with other women behind my mums back. so if he does anything like this again and doesnt give you a good excuse dump him.
2006-11-19 08:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a problem with a friend, money, another woman or his family or all of them. Just ask him in a non-confrontational way 'what's the problem? If you can't tell me now and it's difficult then perhaps you need to sort it out before we see each other again'
Watch his reaction. If he looks relieved then it's a real problem. If he seems sad then he does still feel for you and you'll know how to go from there.
2006-11-19 08:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pagan Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely got something on his mind which he doesn't want to share with you yet, and if you push for an explanation he'll just get angry.
He needs time to calm himself. Don't panic or get clingy.
Admittedly, him being so distant and cold to you doesn't bode well.
(A long shot but ... have you done something recently that he may have found out?)
It could be something straightforward as someone upsetting him and him trying to get over the anger/pain of it or him just plotting revenge, i.e. nothing to do with you.
OR
It could be that he's no longer happy being in a relationship ...
I would say give him the space he desperately needs, hope the best but prepare yourself for the not-so-good.
2006-11-19 09:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jamma354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some times people looses their interest in a person.But he's the one with the problem because if you are doing your part he needs to do his. He needs to sit down and talk to you and tell you how he feels and whats going on. sometimes you have to do men like a baby let him know you there here for him. sit down and talk with him stay by his side he will eventually say what the problem is and things will be better. But if he keeps on acting that way them let him go he doesn't deserve you. find someone else who does.
keep your head up and stay blessed
2006-11-19 08:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt first --- he could be tired, he could be having a bad time at work, he could be stressed out ... there are many reasons why a man doesn't seem very passionate. Don't think too much. Just carry on doing what you usually do.
2006-11-19 08:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isnt bothered with this relationship anymore, ask him,give a little spark in the relationship,if he doesnt want to,then im sorry,but the spark is fading!
2006-11-20 04:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by *Å®åßîåñ P®îñÇꧧ ©* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his behaviour is disrespectful and hes taking you for granted. whatever else has happened you are not happy with this behaviour-he could be stressed, upset , guilty,or just totally selfish and want to live the single life again .
My advice : dont ask him anything
Go out get yourself something fantastic to wear and plan a great night out , dont tell him where you are going , just behave just like he has!! you need to onjoy yourself and see that there are many people out there who will treat you right . dont put up with this, ask him to go to relate or leave ! lifes too short to be with someone who is so selfish..
2006-11-19 09:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by gadriel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like something happened over the weekend for him to act this way. and i dont want to put things in your head as i dont know your bf to judge but it sounds like hes lost interest in you someway along the lines. talk to him asap and get to the bottom of his obvious problem
2006-11-19 08:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something happened while he was away from you, try to find out if he has met anyone else. Good luck
2006-11-19 08:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋