wt do u think? would u describe as selfish too? My concern is only that he should grow on his own grounds.righ

Question

i dont knw how could people be so evil and use other others for their own benefits.My husband is one of them. He married me for the green card as i found this out after getting married to him. He says he has no future in his homeland as well as in europe as he is just a student here. He is asking for a favor from me like i should take him to usa so he can earn more and provide me with a better life. But since, he has cheated so many times, mostly he is talking with girls on the internet i've become scared and have decided never to bring him to usa. he calls me mean, selfish. He wants my help bt i cant help him bz i want him to do something great for me before he expects somethin from me. What do u think am i being mean or selfish? I'm only doing this to save myself from more troubles. Plus, I want him to grow on his own as everyone else does. If he wants to work hard, make a difference in life he can try anywhere. wt do u think? People do things on their own specially as it is very imp

Answer 1

I would like to know why your still married? If he told he only married you to get a green card why even still be together? Sounds like he wants you to take him back to the States so he can leave you and go on his own_

Answer 2

I don't think you are mean or selfish at all. You have clued in to the reality of the situation and I'm pretty sure you know what to do. Don't wait for him to do something nice for you because you may find it is a very long wait, do something nice for yourself instead. Let him grow in his own time in his own way and go forward with your life. You sound like a loving and generous person, use this on yourself and on people who actually care about you.

Answer 3

My honest opinion? I think if you do bring him to the states he would dump you as soon as he established citizenship. Why do you want to be with a man who only married you for your green card and cheats on you? He doesn't love you and he wont make a better life for you. he will only bring you down. You should leave him, file for divorce on the basis that he fooled you into marriage only to obtain a green card and move to the states on your own. Worry about your own future and being happy and not his.

Answer 4

Obviously I'm only getting your side of this and I bet there is more too it, but, sounds like your both selfish and in need of a reality check. You want him to do something for you before you will do something for him, and you say on his end, he is cheating on you. Why exactly did you get married in the first place?

Answer 5

do not let him take the easy road... do not give him a way out.... do not marry this guy.