My husband does not want my family to see our kids because he said they had treated him "badly"when he went to visit them.He has a tendency to exagerate stories especially about my family.The thing is they are quite angry with him because he was physically abusive and had only stopped when I finally called the police.He thinks that I should not havetold them what happened because that is "our"business.He however carries our kids to his other woman's house and my son calls her aunty.
2006-11-19 08:20:12 · 22 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I only found out about him caryying our kids there when my 5yrs old son spoke about it.My husband does this when I am at work.
My job involves me taking clients (patients) out and I saw his car parked outside her apartment building.
2006-11-19 08:41:33 · update #1
Look , the children should see ALL relatives...Your husband needs to growup! And you need to stand your ground for your children. If your family dont like your husband..there is a reason, and your children shouldnt be punished for that. Hitting the road is always an option......he isnt setting a good example for them
2006-11-19 08:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Candy F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has no right to tell you this considering that he is taking your kids to see his other woman and they are calling her aunty.
My dear you need to stop this right now, for a start why are you still with him considering that he was abusive to you, and you know that he has another woman. What you need to put all his stuff into a bag and pack him off to his other woman, and tell him not to come back.
Of course you need your family and of course they are allowed to see your kids, and if you decide to leave him, I'm sure that you family will be so pleased that you are out of this abusive relationship and they will be supportive and they will hopefully help you with your kids.
But you need to leave him and put yourself and your kids first
2006-11-20 17:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing by letting him carry your kids to his other woman's house, why are they going there and what are they doing? Are you the world's most stupid woman? How long have you been married to this creep - leave him now and listen to your family and friends because they are probably giving you good advice. Your husband is a control freak. And you sound like you have the word MUG printed on your forehead. Sorry but being cruel to be kind.
2006-11-19 16:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him - he is trying to isolate you from the people who give you strength (your family). he has got your confidence and self esteem down to nothing because no one in a normal state of mind would put up with this treatment.
I know that you have kids together but they would probaly be happier growing up in a home where the wasnt violence - what kind of lesson is your husband teaching to your son about how to treat woman - cheat on them and slap them about.
Please please find out where your local womans refuge is and dissapear when he is at work. let him still see the kids but make sure that it is in a public place or somewhere arranged by social services.
2006-11-20 04:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some guidance from a pastor, or some type of counselor. Next step is to see a lawyer to find out what rights you and your kids have. You sound like you are worried about making it on your own with the children or you would have left him after he abused you. He sounds like a mentally sick person and if I were in your shoes I'd be worried about what he's doing to the kids mentally, if he's going to hurt them, and what is he going to do to you again. He's bound to strike again. Also, he shows NO respect for you or himself by dragging the kids along to his illicit love for them to be stuck in the middle of this affair. Good luck to you and get yourself moving towards a safe and sane environment.
2006-11-19 22:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he carries your kids where? if you stand for him not allowing your family to see the kids you are nuts. he was abusive to you physically and now he is being abusive to you and the kids emotionally. I'm sorry to say, but i have a feeling that the only way you are going to be able to put an end to this is taking your kids and getting the hell out of there. if you try to argue with him he is going to get angry and then you already know what could happen.and who the heck is this other lady? what does she have to do with you and him and the kids? get out!!!!!
2006-11-19 16:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a point, it is not anyone's else business what goes in your homelife. You should not want to go to someone's house, fmaily or not, who put your husband down, the father of your children down, or treat him like crap. On the other hand you need to think about your life. If your husband is taking your children to someone's house so he can get laid, if he is putting his hands on you, your children see this. They learn from it. You ned to think what is best for your kids and for you. If you decide to leave him, then you need to make sure no one put their father down in front of them. Your children have a brain and they will form their own opinions about him. This does not in anyway mean you should sugarcoat him. Tell them the truth when they ask a question, use the right wording for their ages. If you decide to stay with him, then you should never bring up the past again unless it becomes a pattern. The past is the past and it should stay there if you plan on moving on into the future. Good luck.
2006-11-19 16:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by trustnoone_ever 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is selfish, childish and a bully, he has lied to you, and he's physically abusive?
Do not put up with this treatment. Ask your family to help you. They care for you, and want you to be happy. Maybe they can see the real him, which you can't. If you leave him, things will be difficult for you, but your friends and family will help you, if you ask them to.
I have a feeling that things will only get worse with this guy. He's trying to manipulate you - stand up for yourself and your kids, and get help.
2006-11-19 16:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth are you still with this animal?You have a responsibility to yourself & your children to get out of this situation.He will continue to treat you like dirt for as long as you let him.You are a human being,not a dog.
2006-11-19 16:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's taking your kids to his other woman's house, I would go over there one day and pick up my kids and drop off his clothes, etc. the first time he hit you should have been his last time
Oh by the way, youur family hasn't done anything to him so don't deny them or your children
2006-11-19 16:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋