Step-daughter is in Muslim family located in area that I just found 7 months ago, much to my horror still practices genital mutilation against women (and they remove the ENTIRE clitoris and labia). Husband had always said they didn't. Her physical proved they did. Father lived in the USA and visited them yrly for 10 yrs. In USA 05/2006. He works about 18 hrs per day however. Being the youngest (11) / only girl isn't easy. She's constantly interrupted and/or ignored (as am I and I'm an ADULT female) by all of the males in the house. I've advocated for she and I. I've intervened we sort of bonded. Exp: 15 yr old slapped her. She cried. I take away his gameboy, tell his father (who does nothing to him). But she won't speak to ME. Mumble replies to everyone else... but NO REPLIES to me. She's withdrawn for hours ignoring me totally (unless I get treats). Family says bio mom NEVER interviened. Trusted her boys to "handle" the girl. How would you deal with this? Husband says no counseling.
2006-11-19 08:05:01 · 4 answers · asked by zoe_southernusa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just let her feel however she wants, keep trying, be nice, be patient. she's just in a phase of her life where she's not sure how to deal. just be there for her, let her know you are and that she can come talk to you about anything.
you also should consider posting this under "psychological".
good luck
2006-11-19 08:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Veritesirum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, preteen age is the most difficult age, I have a 14 year old daughter, and as soon as she hit middle school, she developed a attitude towards me, she started sassing back and would ignore any requests I had for her, I dug in my heels and started restricting her privileges. My favorite answer to her when she wanted me to do something for her was "well what I ask you do to for me was not important enough for you to do, so your wants are just not that important to me" Eventually she learned and our relationship now is very good. I really think what is going on between you and your step children is they don't trust your not going to leave them, or not be there for them like their mother is not, it sounds like they are testing you, and there may be some jealousy toward your 10 year old.Harsh ultimatums rarely work on a child, they will just turn it around and make themselves a victim, they will tell everyone around how their step mom mistreated them and that their Dad allowed it. I strongly suggest counseling, because their behavior should not be tolerated and a third party may be able to get through to them. It sounds like you love these children very much, don't give up, it's gonna be a long road, but in the end It will be worth it. Good luck and I am sending prayers for strength your way.
2016-05-22 04:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, by the time she gets older, you'll wish she would shut up. Enjoy it while you can.
2006-11-19 13:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Matt F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably because u nag on her to much just leave her alone and c what happends
2006-11-19 13:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Brunette Diamond 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋