okay so.. i am a 15 year old girl. i have 2 best friends, and when they go to parties they drink. i havent been to a party w/ alcohol yet, and they said they want to get me drunk. i really dont want to. i could just start talking to them less, and make more friends.. but aths the hard part. alot of teens drink because they think its cool, and they want to fit in. my friends dont have problems with alcohol, they just think its fun to drink. i told them, no, i dont want to get drunk,whats fun about puking and falling everywhere and not even remembering anything? there not alcoholics or anything tho. i kinda have trouble making new friends cause im kinda shy. i mean with certain people i talk to them and we just click and were friends but with most peole its like... umm.. akward. should i just try to make new friends? or just never go to parties. please help. OH and also, what are some ways to be at ease with people and make new friends easliy? thanks!
2006-11-19 08:03:16 · 8 answers · asked by ashley y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-11-19 08:03:51 · update #1
I went through the same thing you are going through last year..
I'm also 15..and I DID decide to go to the parties. I started partying every weekend..and it got me into a lot of trouble. My mom found out..& she still doesn't trust me.
My advice: DON'T drink. It'll make everything worse. You haeva chance of becoming an alcoholic, and like they say "Once you start, you can't stop." Trust me..this happened to me.
As for your friends...stop being friends with them. A real friend wouldn't pressure you into anything. & they will end up getting themselves into trouble. Chances are, they will be drinking the rest of their high school years & even afer that. This happened to me last year..and those girls STILL drink all the time.
I made new friends. It took me a long time though. I was convinced that everyone drank & I'd never find anyone who wanted to be my friend that didn't. But I joined a group in my school called Stand Tall (an organization where you pledge not to drink, smoke, or do drugs), and I founf lots of people who feel the same way I do. I suggest you look for a club like that.
Those girls are headed down the wrong path in life, and I wouldn't want you going down that path too...
2006-11-19 08:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by nkp225 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, kiddo, as the mother of a teen with friends who do just what your friends do, I am proud to say my daughter has no part of it, and has really great friends.
Those girls are no friends of yours. They just want to make you like THEM. Next thing you know, they'll lose their virginity, then want you to lose yours...then it will be drugs, then maybe gay sex...who knows.
Life is about making your own choices, and you've already said what yours is...now stick to it.
You will have a thousand friends come and go in your lifetime, but if you can find one true one, that is a treasure...I promise you that.
Don't drink. You will not know what you are doing, you will make bad judgements, and you can even get yourself raped or killed in the process. Kids would rather drive drunk or get into a car with a drunk, than admit to their parents they have been drinking. They make bad choices. All of my daughter's classmates from last year (grade 8) are pretty well all smoking and into drugs. They think that's cool, we think it's stupid, and it is. Find new friends kiddo...there's a million of them out there that feel the same way you do. I am glad my daughter went to Girl Scouts and other places because now a lot of those girls are in her high school and she is so happy and they all have good values and that is who she hangs with.
Just be yourself wherever you go. Be nice. Feel comfortable in your own skin. It's hard being a teenager but find people who have the same interests...join clubs, go away to camp in the summer..you will meet lots of new people.
2006-11-19 16:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well this is quite a problem you have and a problem that a lot of teens have these day. I think it would be better for you not to drink but in the end it is really up to you and we can not tell you what to do. To most people drinking is cool but can i ask you something what is so cool about having a bad liver and killing brain cells. In my opinion you should focus on school and grades b/c when it comes time to apply to collages and have a future and apply for jobs its your grades that will matter do you really think they are going to wonder how many times you got drunk in high school. and the answer is No! I hope this helps you make your decision
2006-11-25 00:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by badash1154 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's cool that you are your own person. I didn't give into peer pressure at your age either. I'm not saying I didn't end up getting drunk and doing drugs later on, but I avoided it while in high school. Most likely, you will drift apart from them and acquire new friends who share your interests. You can still be on good terms with your current friends, but not as close. I made some friends when I joined the art club. Some were drug users, some weren't. They accepted me either way.
I think things will work out fine for you. I can see you becoming friends with more mature people.
2006-11-19 16:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider finding new friends your way to young to have that sort of peer pressure and people acting like that in your life.
Alcohol is not a simple thing and many peole everyday screw there lives up by giving into alcohol and many other drugs be smart and tell them you are not interested in doing this stuff with them because it is illegal and wrong.
2006-11-19 16:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way in HS and so was my husband. My husband still went to all of the parties and was very popular, he just didn't drink. It was tough for both of us to stick to our guns on it, but eventually our friends knew how we felt about it and didn't bug us anymore. It takes a really strong person to say no to underage drinking and you should be very proud of yourself. You have plenty of time to puke and fall down everywhere when you're over 21.
2006-11-19 16:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should talk to your best friends because if they cant stop drinking for thier best friends then i dont think yall should talk.
2006-11-19 16:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine chandler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day, you do what you want to do, and as friends they should respect that....
2006-11-19 16:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋