2006-11-19 07:55:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Realize that everyone is just a person, that no one person or group has the justification to judge you. WHat if the cheerleader in high school judged you? Or the jocks? They judge you by their own view and judgements. Self esteem is a hard thing to build up and easy to rip apart. Realizing that you HAVE TALENTS, and that you DO also have FLAWS is great. You have time in life to work on your flaws and hone your talents. Self esteem is grown through good "practice" of life. If you sit and try to learn the piano, it's a lot of work...boring...tedious sometimes....but it pays off...but some people tear themselves up...because they think they aren't learning fast enough or they can't play well....it's all a matter of time, focus, and working onm what you need to....it's about self-coaching. This is what seperates winners from losers. Attitude is everything. "I CAN" attitude..."...even if I fail at first...or need to adapt or change my mind." This is the seed of my self esteem....no one ELSE changes my SELF.
2006-11-19 08:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by baron_von_sky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Success.
Every time you succeed at something, your self esteem goes up.
Remember that book Psychocybernetics? Well, that book described something important. That thing is that the experience of success doesn't have to be actual in order to have this effect. If you spend some time everyday, imagining yourself in a situation and succeeding. That also will raise your self-esteem just as much as the actual experience would.
2006-11-19 08:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Practicing. My whole life I've been a shy person who had no self-esteem. About three years ago I realized how my low self-esteem is destroying my life.
it was very hard for me to become confident and it took a lot of time "about two years".
you just gotta think that everyone else is not better than you, and try to pretend that you're a confident person, try to act like a confident person, then, by time, you'll forget that you're acting or pretending. it will just be your behavior.
one thing you have to consider, is that you have to know what you like and what you feel comfortable with. you may not feel comfortable going out or talk with a group of people at a time, you may only like to go out or talk with only one person "like me".
some people already suggested great stuff before me, try them, and practice, practice, practice, practice and practice.
good luck :)
2006-11-19 09:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No secret. Getting involved, talking to others and engaging in activities in which I excel gives me positive outlook thus increasing my perceived self-esteem.
When you are confident and knowledgeable you feel like sharing that with others. Also working out to maintain good physical appearance can boost your ego.
2006-11-19 08:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Repeating positve affirmations in your head
Not hanging around low lives
Gluck
2006-11-19 09:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
confidence in your knowledge and patience through discipline.
2006-11-19 08:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋