Ok my crush's dad passed away, and i emailed him about how if he ever wanted to tak i would be there, and how he's strong, and i admire him...etc. Well right now he's on msn, I said hi to him before, but he didnt answer, a few minutes later he went off! Now he's on again...should I try and start a convo...with the traditional hi....or should I just leave him alone? Please NO rude comments!
2006-11-19 07:31:29 · 17 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please NOTE!*This is his dad's anniversary!
2006-11-19 07:42:27 · update #1
sure, try again and leave it at that. you could say something like, "do you want to talk?"...if he doesnt respond, maybe he just wants some time to himself (or possibly he could just not be paying attention to his msn)...he's probably experiencing a lot of difficult emotions right now, and people sometimes isolate themselves in times of difficulty. he may need someone like you to talk to though, so i'd so try once again.
2006-11-19 07:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say Hey ***** whats happeining....I bet he answers and say nothing about his dad...He will talk to you when he is ready and when he wants to about his dad..Most guys will want to trust you to the max before talking about this type of event...If he likes , you trusts you and chooses you to talk to be strong...He will probably break down and cry, so offer him a shoulder, and stroke his hair like you would a child...Just listen...If he chooses you to do this with you are a lucky woman because he more than likes you..But talk to him in person not on msn...You should ask him if he wants to go out for coffeee or a walk or something and do a lot of it..Keep him from being alone too much...
2006-11-19 15:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by ray b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are friends, then go ahead and try again. The message you sent him before was very kind, by the way, and thoughtful, too. Perhaps he is online right now to escape the grief of losing his Dad...at least to some degree, and doesn't want any IM reminders? OR, as we all know, internet connections can be iffy at times, so he may not have even gotten your original message. Try again, doll....a friend is always welcome.
2006-11-19 15:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Decadent Musings06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death is difficult for many people. Your intentions are probably good, but it may be just better to leave him alone for awhile. Wait a couple of days and then write saying that you are always there for him if he needs you and leave it at that. Understanding is what is called for.
2006-11-19 15:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just leave him a lone for a bit and eventually he may talk to you and be social again. Grief affects everyone differently.
2006-11-19 15:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to be left alone. Send him a card or even a e-card. Does your parents know them? Have mom make something and take it over. But you should not use his grief to your advantage.
2006-11-19 15:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by sandymisitano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and say hi again. His MSN might've messed up on him. You'll never know if you don't say hi again. : }
It's nice that you're there for him. I'm sure he appreciates that.
2006-11-19 15:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a polite hi or hello is not working tell him to give you a shout any time he feels more like msning,but don't keep me not knowing if your there or not
2006-11-19 15:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by barnowl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just leave him alone. send him an email so you don't seem pushy but at the same time you are letting him know you are here if he needs you.
2006-11-19 15:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by iwearpink4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, my son died this past feb, and i didn't want to talk to anyone unles ii felt the urge, not bc they started the convo, it hurts to lose someone close like that............... he isn't feeling strong, all u can do is be there, listen and do what he needs to get through each day, bc thats what his life is, day to day
2006-11-19 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋