My husband and I are pretty young (18,21) and it seems like I want sex more often, is there something wrong?

Question

I have a theory that it's because he was my first and that since he has had more sex than I have - I tend to want it more than him. Still, I ask him why he doesn't want to have sex and he says that he doesn't like having sex when he's not ready. We go about once a week or even once every two weeks. Something's wrong, right? I wondered if he thought I was unattractive, but then all my friends yelled at me .. We are young, in love, just married .. shouldn't we be humping like bunnies?

Answer 1

Definately not it just means that you have a higher sex drive then your partner.

Answer 2

Here is the truth. Most and by that i mean 99% of young men want a lot of sex and that's the way it is. If you were having a good sex life before and he is not interested now something has changed in his mind about how he feels about you...But don't panic it's probably that he is scared about the commitment of marriage he's just made, and because of that he is distancing him self from you. That does not mean he does not love you, he simply does not know how to handle it and at 21 he does not no how to handle it. You will need to get him to open up.
But there is nothing wrong with you your fears and desires are normal.

Answer 3

Everyones different and maybe he can compromise with adding a few more times in a week. I am married 7 months hes 48 and I am 43 and he says is that all I think about. So its not unusual for him to want less then you just the way he is just try to meet in the middle and get where your both ok and happy with the decision. Has nothing to do with you being unattractive sometimes also guys like to be in control. Just tell him how you feel and communcate and work it out.

Answer 4

Men are weird creatures. Newly weds should be humping like crazy. But, that depends on how long you guys known eachother. There could be TONS of things not putting him in the "mood". It could be stress, work, new marriage, health. etc. so before thinking he's cheating on you- look all around for the facts first.

my bf of 3 years and I used to have sex EVERYDAY. Now, it's once a week... sad I know. But It's life and we love eachother very much.

Answer 5

Here's the thing.....your husband wants to be the one to initiate sex! Men love the hunt, the capture and the kill!(so to speak)
You are not giving him a chance to be a guy and do his thing if you are constantly wanting it....Everyone needs a breather.....Once every 3-4 days is normal for newly weds....some weeks more, some less, depending on week at work and how tired you are and if something came up.
Do something different one night..when you know nothing else is going on that night..... ..Take him out to dinner.........Even if Micky D's is his favorite, then take him there, or maybe he likes Pasta,
just something different to break up the regular week.........
I use to pack my husbands luch for many years.......I put a note in his lunch box everyday. It might just say, I love you, or come home safe, Or I owe you a special night of your choice! Just come up with something different......I even left him a note in his work pants pocket he layed out ......get creative....Let him be the one for some fore-play......(take a cold shower if you need to).Good luck. and different ideas keep things interesting..not all the time, just every few months

Answer 6

Not like 24/7 but maybe like 3 or 4 times a week . Anymore than that then it gets old .

Answer 7

you probably do want to have it more than he does since he is your first. but he does need rest, he isn't a machine!!!try to slow it down a bit or you may break him.then again he is only 21,that's pretty young ...he should be wanting it all the time. maybe you two should see a Dr. my hubby is 26 and he is never not in the mood, except when he is real tired. has your babe been working alot lately?

Answer 8

No, nothing wrong but maybe he is tired, what does he do all day for a living? Or you could ambush him first thing in the morning before he wakes up. I think it's a myth among women that men only think about sex.

Answer 9

Yeah, you should !

I once read that newly weds have more sex in their first year of marriage, than they do in all the following years.

He just doesn`t realizes that he should make the best of this period of time. In a couple of years you might lose interest....

Answer 10

Nope, woman don't usually have the tendency to have more sexual intercourse than men, but some woman do. So there is no reason why to think that you have a problem. It just means that your sex drive is higher than his.