please help!?

Question

im 16 but im in love with my 28 year old married boss.. which is obviously not smart. but the thing is, he calls me a lot and we talk for hours and it seems like he feels the same way? what should i do????

Answer 1

ah this is a tricky one. im not gonna tell you to quit because thats really your call, and if you really love him you cant really help that kind of thing, but i will tell you that you need to be extremely careful and remeber that he is married.. and theres a huge chance he's not gonna leave his wife for you. and then obviously theres the whole legal thing that goes along with it, yes you are at the age of consent but that doesnt go for anyone thats older than 18. i think 11 years is too big of an age gap for someone your age, maybe if you were 22 and he was 33 that would be a completely different story.

Answer 2

Let's forget for a moment that doing anything with him is illegal, that he's married, and that he's your boss.

You're 16 and don't know anything about anything yet. No offense, but that's just the way it is. You don't know about the games that people play and ulterior motives. He probably doesn't even really like you. He is probably just wanting a piece of tail.

You're 12 years younger than him. Maybe when you're 60, that won't make any difference, but think about this:

12 years ago, he was your age now. You were 4. Do you think you could fall in love with a 4 year old? Truly in love? If you think so, you don't know what love is.

You've learned a lot in the time from when you were 4 until now. In the next 12 years, you'll learn that much more. You have no common experiences other than work.

The guy is a dog.

If you didn't think that there was something wrong here, you wouldn't have asked the question - go with your gut and forget about him. Call him in a couple of years when you're legal and he's divorced.

Answer 3

Please! You are a child, only 16. He's 28. For your sake, get yourself another job. It's not worth staying where you are. This old timer has no business calling you like he does and he needs to be reported. Tell your parents or tell his boss. This man already has a wife that he's mistreating. Do you want to be the other girl to help him? Reguardless of what he tells you, he's up to no good. Please stay away from this man and stop accepting his calls. A 16 year old getting involved with a 28 year old married man will only bring untold heartache and misery for years to come.

Answer 4

first ask yourself what should you know. You should know that he's most likely to leave his wife possibly for you or maybe someone else. If he leaves her soon, he's likely to be in a relationship with the first woman he's with then leave her for a more serious relationship. If he's married and showing you interest, why in the world would he not do the same to you as he's doing to his current wife? A leopard doesn't change its spots. You're too young to be involved in something that could only turn out sad in the long run--I promise you I'm right about this. Please be smart, take more time to think this out, and be sixteen, not twenty something.

Answer 5

Cardinal rule #1: Bosses should never fraternize socially with their employees, which means outside of work hours, and includes having personal conversations on the phone. Rule #2, You are underage, and he could be arrested for statutory rape if you are ever foolish enough to see him outside of working hours. Rule # 3, he is a married man. With all those strikes against you, I think you should politely tell your boss to find another confidante to tell his troubles to. I see nothing but disaster ahead if this is allowed to continue. Get smart, hon, and don't encourage this relationship, even if it means losing your job, which is far better than other things you might lose...


Incidentally, you are not in love with him. It's just infatuation, and he will do you wrong. Trust me!

Answer 6

What's with all these women answering this question by being so negative.

The didn't ask, Is he going to be your one-true love? No. Will he be faithful to you your whole life and provide for you? Hardly. Are you destroying his marriage? Please, it was a wreck before he hit on you. Is what he's doing illegal and sleazy. Yes.

But you didn't ask those questions, even though all the female answerers piled on with those answers.

You want to know what to do? Do what you feel is fun. You're young and should be enjoying your life. Just have no long term expectations. Be realistic. It's unlikely you'll either be dating him or working with him a month from now. But, if you're okay with that, you might enjoy yourself for a few weeks and learn from it. Keep you eyes open, play safe (or learn what that means if you don't know), and experience life.

Answer 7

1)find a new job.
2)stop talking to him.
3)remember you are 16 and he is a 28 year old married man.
if you keep it up you both will be in jail, you because you will have to testify against, him because you are a minor and it is illegal for him to be trying to coerce a minor

Answer 8

You should quit your job, report your boss to his boss (since in most states, what he's doing is called sexual harrassment), and sever all contact with this creep. Please, please, please, you are MUCH too young to be involved with a married man. You can get another part time job, you should concentrate on your grades and school right now.

Answer 9

Well...I only can say, it smells like POLICE. You are a minor, and he is older than you, much older. I recommend you to leave it where it is, or he can be punished my law, even if you want to be with him. Older guys know more than you, and definitely, he is going to try to use you, and then he is going to forget about you. TAKE CARE GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 10

DON'T BE A HOMEWRECKER
YOU WILL END UP GETTING YOURSELF (AND HIM- BECAUSE YOU ARE UNDER AGE)
IN MORE TROUBLE THAN YOU BARGAINED FOR.
PLUS HOW GOOD COULD HE BE?
ONCE A CHEATER- ALWAYS A CHEATER!
HE WON'T TREAT YOU GOOD- IF HE ALREADY STRAYS FROM HIS WIFE