Hi girls! I am in a difficult position! I fall in love with a guy that is married and is about to have a baby! I met him 8 months ago.. he said he was an unhappy multimilionaire... and that the last time he had sex with his wife in two years ws to concieve the second child ( a week before that date)....he got drunk even cried and we spoke for 6 hours (never got numbers or emails) and met another 3 times in incredible coicidences that mades us really close to each other... now he is still unhappy, about to have a baby next month and wants to stay with me... the thing is: I am extreamelly agaist adultery, but I love him so much... can't stop think about about him.... he offered me 10 thousand pounds a month to stay on the side, I have a job that I hate and don't make money... he is 35 years old, gorgeus and fit, the most sweet person I ever met but how can I say yes? I am very religious and that would make feel bad.... but i love him.. I have to give an answer next week.. What do I do?
2006-11-19 06:57:39 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
say no and tell him to contact me please
2006-11-23 01:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but my whole brain is screaming he's a liar.
Hears how it sounds...
Married - he's married wife family etc he has responsibilities.
Unhappy multimillionaire - yeah right, what do you get a man who has bought everything - a lover.
Last time he had sex with his wife was 2 years, somehow i don't think so. well if not his wife then someone else.
He has a child on the way - come on love wise up.
drunk and cried - to good to be true, a real emotional man from the word go. that just doesn't happen in real life unless they are gay or playing you.
Met 3 times, known him 8 months, baby due next month - he was sleeping with his wife when he met you or pretty close.
He doesn't want to leave you - i tack it you two have already got it on.
£10,000 -not really a career move, being a kept woman/mistress.
You have until next week - relationships should not have alternations or deadlines - it's a classic first step to controlling someone.
if you accept his agreement he will own you, control you and worst of all, he'll be your financial income.
if he really loved you, he would leave his wife, provide and support his children. let things settle and kids get used to it. before you two get it together. no matter how long it takes.
just be careful
2006-11-19 07:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by jue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you love him, but he is married and his wife is about to have his second child. You need to leave him alone and you should never have got yourself mixed up with him in the first place.
Considering that he is a multimillionaire that is unhappy in his marriage (don't you think that he could have come up with something a little more original than that) why is he having another child with his wife.
The thing is if he can cheat and lie this easily on his wife whose to say that he isn't doing the same thing to you and other girls out there. You should be insulted that he's offering you money to become he's mistress, because at the end of the day after he has had his way with you, he still going to be going back to his wife and kids. You will only get to see him when he's feeling horny, he will never be your boyfriend and be there when you really need him.
You've already said that you are religious, you are against adultery and you feel bad, so surely you already know what your answer has to be. If not let me speall it out for you...you need to leave this man alone and not see him again
2006-11-19 08:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats his wife like that how can you trust him. It sounds like you believe in fate / destiny but seeing how you have only met him a few times it sounds more like infactuation than love.
If he has to pay you to 'stay on the side' what does that say for what he thinks about you. He probably thinks that if he throws enough money at a problem it will go away - just because he has you doesn't mean that he'll be any happier.
He has a child on the way. He needs to take care of the child and his wife, not be fooling around behind her back.
Personally I'm not at all religious but what he is proposing is wrong. You need to be strong and say no to him.
That is unless you want to be a kept mistress (people seeing that you're being paid to be with him, to sleep with him), a marriage wrecker and someone who would deprive a child of their father.
You should say no, tell him to sling his hook. And if he doesn't leave you alone tell his wife.
2006-11-19 07:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is all about who you really are as a person girl? I know that you really care about this guy or maybe not......you seem to be thinking about the money too......I think he is a pig.....put yourself in his wife's position.....she is fixing to have a baby and she is probaly so in love with him......most men are full of ****......him cheating on his wife should tell you that...and do you really believe that he doesn't have sex with his wife? Come on girl.....a man will tell you anything to get what he wants.......so I think that you should beat him at his own game.......I say tell him that you will except his offer......get your first month's pay from him and then sit him down and tell him that he needs to be a better husband.......girl, he will never truly love you!!!! Think about it.....get some money to help you out and send him on his way.....if you are a good person and if not......KARMA is a ***** and a mean one!!! Treat people(his wife) the way you want to be treated!!! Hope you make the right decision
Me
2006-11-19 07:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do?You must have some idea as to what you should do....but its not what you want to do.Forget the religion for now..well it hasnt stopped you from falling for this guy..even tho he is already married.But then you cant stop that age old feeling love nothing can.Im not going to beat arround the bush this man wants his cake and to eat it it as well....dont listen to his lies please please PLEASE!!!!If you do decide to go ahead and be his Mistress how long will it be before your unhappy!!!What ever you do don't give up your job he has made empty promises!!!Oh and I'm sure he is a" sweet guy ".....come on he is an emotional con man...dont be fooled by him.I can imagine you see him as a way out of your rubish job ect but he is praying on that....all he wants is the best of both worlds...up to you thogh but i will say tell him that he needs to sort his head out first.Take care and try to think past the £10,000.....xx
2006-11-19 08:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.He lied to you that he's not had sex with wife for 2yrs yet he's expecting a baby.....i hope his wife hasn't been 2yrs pregnant.You don't love this man because i think he caught your attention when he said he's a multibillionaire besides you make little money.Are you willing to sell your heart for 10000 pounds a month because u need money?Your need for fiancial security has convinced you to believe you love this man but you don't love him.If you're very religious then let him go,if you're a christian:the Bible is strongly against adultery.In the real world,you wouldn't want to be in this woman's shoes to have a cheating husband.
"A bird in hand is worth twice in the bush,"even though what you earn isn't enough,it's better than to have "unsafe" money.Do you know how difficult for a man who has spent a lot of money on a woman to let go?Someday,u may want to leave and it could be risky and have you thought about what this man's wife might do to you if she finds out?Save yourself a lot of trouble and be pleased with your hard earned money.
2006-11-19 07:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer so I'm not sure why you are bothering to ask. Do you want our opinions? If so you need to walk away. First and foremost the man took vows with his WIFE in front of GOD, he has children and girl don't mess with kids and there parents! If there is one thing the Lord can't stand it's to hurt a child so please walk away. Also are you really willing to be his whore? Because that is what you would be if you accept his money for sex. right? I hope you make the right decision.
2006-11-19 07:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Happychick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look , if you are REALLY religious you know the answer. You can't get with a married man. If you are not really religious then if the money is correct, i'd say it was a good deal!
You'd only have to stay with him a few months and you'd have banked a lot of cash!
Be prepared for him to dump you when he's had enough, and wants to offer the next pretty girl a lot of money for sex.
His poor wife! Pity her. I do.
2006-11-19 07:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HM...well you should stay away...if you really love him the money wouldn't make you want to give up everything you believe in...not to mention demoralizing yourself. Money only seems to get this guy laid...and he seems to have gotten down your pants like that...if you help him cheat...what do you think he will do to you...if you ever get him. and you probably won't...stop buying him dinner at the Y and see how long he hangs around...if he sticks with it for a year or so without sex...then and only then can you begin to believe that he is telling you the truth in the first place!
2006-11-19 07:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unhappy with his wife and marriage why is he having more children with her ? And if he wants to be with you but not his wife .. why isn't he filing for a divorce instead of offering to keep you on the side and pay you 10,000 ?
He wants to have his cake and eat it too, keep you as a mistress.. keep his marriage and his kids...
If you are willing to just be the mistress hoping that he will one day when the kids are older to leave his wife and marry you ( which rarely happens ) ... then say yes...
2006-11-19 07:06:44 · answer #11 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋