they marry, have children, etc, and you can't have a normal life because of family's illness, etc, and you can't even build a serious relationship, and they hurry so much to get another one
2006-11-19 06:34:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Watching that person move on should be enough to make you want to do better. You should allow yourself a set amount of time to mourn the loss. Once that time has expired, you should start to do things for yourself. Be selfish. Focus on you and not on starting another relationship. As you regain your confidence and start to feel better, that special person that you are yearning for will find you. The universe returns what is put out: if you are always depressed and worrying about things you can't change, all you will get back in return is negativity. If you want a different, more positive outcome, then work on making positive changes for you. If you persevere, you will have the happiness you feel your old love has, and maybe even more. Good luck.
2006-11-19 06:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by gee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for you, you have my sympathy.
Some people find it easier to "move on" than others. Usually the ones who have trouble "moving on" are the ones who didn't want to split up in the first place.
Seeing someone you once shared your life with, happy with someone else, is going to be very hurtful. Especially if you are still "in love" with them. The fact that you are in a "difficult" family situation, which is "preventing" you from meeting anyone new, only magnifies that hurt.
Maybe if you seek some "outside" help it will make it easier for you to get through this. Having someone to talk to can make a world of difference for you. You need some emotional support now and there's nothing wrong with finding some.
Try to concentrate on yourself and don't dwell on what "was". The past is just that, "past", nothing you can do will change it but you can "learn" from it. Try to look at your future as an "opportunity" to do something new and wonderful. Go out with your friends, enjoy yourself.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 16:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a normal life. Remember, all lives are not the same. I'm sure you've dealt with hurt because you lost someone you loved. And obviously they did not return that love eough to deal with the issues you were facing. Without unconditional love, that person would not have been able to have a good relationship with you. Knowing that, it's really to your benefit that they left! You should be able to have a serious relationship when the time is right. Don't be envious of their new "hurried up" relationship; it may not be a good or lasting one. Wish them well and go on with your life.
2006-11-19 14:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They hurry along because that is how they cope. You need to find what makes you happy in doing good for others. Have you ever checked out volunteer work at the hospital? Doing something for children in your area? Something that gets your mind off of your problems and concentrates your energy on helping someone else out of their problems. In helping others we heal ourselves.
2006-11-19 14:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by deno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your are not trying hard enough. let them be and start healing yourself.take sometime to reflect on why you two aren't together, and go from there. you are STRONG whether you believe it or not.and with prayer to your higher power you WILL build a serious relationship when you are ready and come to terms that you will walk away from that pain and realize that the memories you have are exactly that, memories. good luck and try a lot harder to become stronger.
2006-11-19 14:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By being less concerned with other people's lives and more concerned with your own. Stop being jealous of things you only see from the outside. I'm sure he has a bundle of problems that you have no idea about same as you.
Let go of your past and get on with the present!
2006-11-19 14:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is just destination - nobody knows what is going to happened.
The life is going to solved the problem or what ever is going to be is going to be. Is your way to find little thinks in nature and your heart to enjoy the life and look positively on the world.
2006-11-19 14:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It always hurts to see someone you love move on...no matter the circumstances in your own life. My heart goes out to you. I dont think there really is a good answer. Try to stay busy...it gives you less time to think!
2006-11-19 14:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by MrsA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I can feel that, but you can go on with your life, you just need to believe yourself
2006-11-19 14:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by OMID T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should move on..i know what u feel...just get over it..
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2006-11-19 14:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋