What do I do about my husbands ex calling my house?

Question

It might have been because she couldn't get in touch with him, on his cell phone, to talk to the kids that were over that weekend, but I still feel like it's disrespectful to me. I told my husband I didn't want her to call my house unless it was a very big emergency. What are my legal options to this? and what's the opinion on it?

Answer 1

the best way to handle this is with oozy drippy sweetness.
when you answer, and its her, be as pleasant as you can!
it should make her feel like s**t and she will probably not call anymore unless it truly is regarding the children

remember, you married into this...she has every right to call to speak with her kids, and your husband concerning the kids. but if you think she is going out of her way to bother you, try being sugar sweet. trust me, it works

Answer 2

Well if she's just calling the house to talk to the kids, I suppose it's OK (only when they're over that is.) Maybe the next time you answer the phone tell her something. If you feel disrespected you need to come out and say it. No ones a mind-reader, no one going to stop doing something unless you speak your mind. As for your husband, you need to sit him down and tell him, "look, she's your ex, I'm your wife I don't appreciate her calling this house, especially since you two are no longer together."

Legal options, I don't think you'll find any. She's not harassing you, right? You just don't like her calling. I don't think there's anything you can do there. Then, if you do find some way to legally stop her phone calls your husband might get pissed off at you.

Answer 3

I don't know if you have any legal options considering that she has every right to call and check on her children. Sounds like you may feel a little insecure about your relationship. If this is the case, then you should have though more carefully about the situation that you were getting yourself into before you to got married. You have to respect your husband's kids and their mother or you and your husband may have some problems in the long run if they haven't started already.

Answer 4

Legal options? The girl called your house, she didn't threaten to murder you! There are no "legal options" but to tell your husband that you don't appreciate her calling the house.
But, if it was for her kids, you cannot be selfish. You have to understand that every mother deserves the right to checkup on their kids. It shouldn't be a problem as long as she wasn't persistently calling, trying to talk to your husband, or harrassing you.
And, wouldn't you rather have her calling the house then his cell phone— this way you know they're not having "secret chats" on the cell. At least if she calls your house you can answer and put her kids on rather then her talking to your hubby.

Answer 5

here is the thing, you married a man that has children with another person,so you new that going in. you have no right to say that she cant call your house. this is also his house.and his children. to be honest i think i would rather her call the house, so that way i would know when she is calling. you need to get a grip,stop acting selfish. these are his kids and there are going to be time him and the ex will need to talk. now if she starts calling in the middle of the night or calling when it has nothing to do with the kids then you could say something. but if you try to put a wedge between him and his ex when it comes to his kids, it will come back and bite you in the a**.

Answer 6

Unless her calls were in any way harassing or threatening to you personally, you have no recourse. Based on the way you have portrayed your position, I can't say that I blame her for trying to avoid talking to you by calling to check on the kids via their father's cell phone. You will go a long way towards making yourself look like a real winner if you put aside the animosity. As the mother of two children who has shared custody with their father, I can tell you that calling to check on the kids is a VERY minor "issue", and you should try really hard to pick your battles very carefully. If you continue to harp on this phone thing, and attempt to portray yourself as being disrespected, you will be putting your husband in a very awkward and uncomfortable position - and you will not be gaining anything. Smile, brush it off, and "kill her with kindness". Your husband will view you as a saint, and be very grateful that you have not done anything to spoil the limited amount of time he has to enjoy his children's company.

Answer 7

You really don't have any legal options. Since those are her kids, too, expect her to be an unfortunate part of your life for many, many years. The best thing to do would be to be gracious, and understanding. As long as her calls are concerning the kids, there's nothing for you to do but be tolerant. The key is to try to be the bigger person here. If she starts to intrude on your life, etc, and you feel that your husband is starting to spend far too much time on the phone with her, you'd best calmly talk to him and see about working out a compromise.
I spent years with a man who had a child with another woman, and it took me a long time to accept that he was going to spend time with his child and it might mean that he was going to run into her every now and then. I had to learn to be secure in the knowledge that he chose me and not her.
Hope this helps!

Answer 8

To be honest I think that if her kids are in your house and she can't reach your husband's cell then she has every right to call the house phone. If you make a scene every time she calls you will alienate you husband.Also how must the kids feel about this? Are you trying to tell them that their mother is so bad you can't even bear to talk to her on the phone.Be nice,it'll confuse her!

Answer 9

You have no legal options unless she is saying violent threatening things to you on the phone. She can call any house she pleases, and why does it offend you? You chose to marry a divorced man and you need to be more open out his past. Yes, its not comfortable for anyone that she is calling your house, but if you are the mature one, it will make her look worse

Answer 10

I don't think there are any legal options for you unless you are being harrassed. If you have caller Id, don't answer or answer and let her know you prefer that she contacts him on his cell phone. Since they share custody of the children, it's inevitable. I wouldn't take it personally. ANother option is to get rid of the house phone. Many people only use cell phones these days.