Does the character of a man actually matter to a woman?

Question

I'm looking for serious answers here. Nothing along the lines of "duh" or "of course".

I'm just wondering, because I haven't been able to find a woman who thinks that it's important for a man to live his life with integrity. Most women that I know think that it's great when a man is unfaithful, lazy, verbally abusive, and dishonest in general. They view him as being a "bad boy" who has "edge" and is a "challenge".

On the other hand, a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and devoted to his wife and children, is seen as "boring" and "too nice".

Why is this? Do these women have low self-esteem and think that they don't deserve better . . . or, do men of integrity have to start being losers in order for women to appreciate them?

I look forward to your serious and well-thought-out answers.

Answer 1

Well I'm a woman and I think it's crucial for a man to live his life with integrity - and for a woman to do the same. I think fidelity, respect, kindness, tolerance and patience are sterling qualities that are infinitely more desirable in a man than looks, bank balance, sexual prowess or any other talent. I would rather live my life alone than waste any time with a man who was not as you describe, and in fact it took just over 40 years before I found the right man.

You must not give up hope. Continue to be the decent man you are and be choosy about the women you date. And never, never settle for second best, i.e. for Miss Available and Willing rather than Miss Right. I am sure your patience will be rewarded and when you do meet the right woman she'll be worth the wait.

Good luck.

Answer 2

There are just some women out there who are attracted to the wrong men. But I have a good man who takes care of our family faithful,he lost his romantic side along time ago but he always tells me that he loves me and that he found a good woman and that makes me happy to hear him say that. Any woman who would pick a abusive,unemployed baby maker,with no heart and cheats is crazy not to pick a real man who knows his priorities and knows how to treat a woman right. When you marry it should be for love you have for the other person who you want to spend the rest of your life with and so far i have the right man but he better not EVER CHEAT on me he says he never will but you never know when is is 80 and I am 75 he will go and buy some viagra and go chase him some young 20 year old.

Answer 3

I know in today's world it seems difficult to find a person who can appreciate integrity. Men AND women have this problem. But I know that women do exist who want an honest, loyal, stable man. I am one of those women. I am dating a little bit right now and struggling to find a real man as opposed to a guy. But be persistent. Be sure that you are looking in the RIGHT places. Meeting people through friends that you already know are decent people, or church if you are involved with that, are better than meeting women at bars or at malls.

And PLEASE do not get discouraged. We need men like you to stand up for what is right and be the real deal instead of what is typical today.

Answer 4

I used to go after the "bad boys" but after much heart break I found me a good man..a man who is confident, mentally and physically healthy, a community leader, intelligent, romantic, honest, and devoted to his wife and children..In my eyes this is so extremely sexy in a man. In my case I was just young and dumb..the so called bad boys attracted me b/c they were nice to me then when i would date them they turned mean..the nice guys just didnt attract me..I learned what was important as I grew up. Now that I have found a "nice guy" I would never ever be attracted to the other side..It really is such an awesome feeling to be so devoted to..in turn I am able to feel the same way towards him.

I hope I answered in a way that made sense and was what you were looking for.

Answer 5

Wow you must be looking in the wrong places or your trying to find a trophy wife(someone that looks good but nothing else)There are so many women out there that would love and even cherish a man like you.I know I would.Of course women with integrity are hard to find so many women are willing to sell themselves for money or looks and frankly it makes me sick.What ever happen to honest loyal stand by your man type of women.But then again what happened to the man that actually wanted someone true than a barbie doll?

Answer 6

There are a million women looking for guys with integrity. The ones you are talking about are not the class of society that would appreciate those things or they may feel trapped and can't get by on their own.

Men with integrity can be just as sexy and desirable as the rebel and there are women out there who have integrity also who would be glad to meet guys like you.

Answer 7

I think the women that you know are immature. Younger women see the bad boy as a challenge because they want to be the one to change him. They will find out that changing someone isn't what a relationship is all about. Hopefully, they will learn this and find someone who is already what they were looking for... Someone like yourself who will be there for them and treat them with respect. To me, a persons character is the most important thing and will endure.

Answer 8

No I think you just have to wait, dont change for a woman,,if you lie cheat and all that stuff you will just end up losing them so its best to just be good and wait, one will come along, a someone once told me there is to things that a man doesn't chase after one is a bus and the other is a woman because anouther will always come along,

Answer 9

I don't know your age or what age of women you are talking about, but I disagree with you 100%.
And for some reason I don't believe you believe this either. am I right? A girl may think this way, but not a woman.

Answer 10

just as there are diffrent kinds of men, there are different kinds of woman & each two who end up together do because their personalities are for whatever reason, drawn together... I have an intelligent, responsible, & respectful man who finds the right balance between work, play, relationship, & who is adventurous but still safe. THANK YOU GOD!!!!!!!!!!