Why do you think my ex husband say he was widowed on dating site? He was married 3 times before me I was fourth wife and last wife he was widowed but he was also seperated from.Why do you think that is?Why didn't he say divorced?
2006-11-19 05:59:20 · 18 answers · asked by eagle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah after seeing all the responses sympathy is what he wants because even though of course there are differences in a divorce he was just an unkind person and as one person stated why would I care well myabe because he didn't acknowlege the marriage and I need to make a new life for myself!Which has taken me 2 years to get over and I am still wondering about him but know I need to move on.
2006-11-19 06:13:09 · update #1
Telling someone he had 4 failed marriages would differently raise a red flag with a girl if he is trying t o impress her or even date her. I would run in the other direction if i was a girl on one of those sites. It's easier to say he is widowed than to have to explain the circumstances of his many divorces..
Forget about him, if he did not honor the memory of your marriage he is not worth giving a second thought too. You were wise to leave him , be proud of that and move on . You will eventually find a person who will deserve you and e proud of his life with you. Best of luck
2006-11-19 07:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that came into my mind when I read your question was....why do you care what your ex is saying/doing? You didn't just come across his profile by sheer chance - you had to be looking for it (on more than one dating site, no less). Don't deny it.
The sooner you stop actively seeking information about what your ex is doing, the better off you will be.
That being said, it's obvious that your ex is a duplicitous liar. Be glad you are no longer married to him, and, if you become aware that he is dating someone new, hope that she is the inquisitive type. What else can you do? Stalk him and expose him? Open up accounts on those dating sites and make mention of having been wife #4 to so-and-so (be really careful of the language you use, as you may open yourself up to a libel lawsuit)? If he was abusive, well, maybe you would be performing a public service. If he was just a lousy husband, then I suggest you let the chips fall where they may, and move on. Good riddance to bad rubbish!
Just read your additional comments. YES! You're on the right track! If you really feel like you are unable to let go (especially since your ex was such a lousy partner), you might want to consider seeking some short-term counseling. Divorce can be like a death....there is often grief...and you may need some assistance to remind youself that you are worthy of receiving healthy love. Good luck! You deserve to be happy.
2006-11-19 06:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up a profile on the same site he is using with fake pictures (those are easy to find on the internet). Exchange a few emails and set up a time to meet him. Now, you need to arrange this meeting to coincide when you need to go out "shopping" or something with the baby. Set up to meet at a coffee shop. Then when he is supposed to be there, wait about 10-15 min to be sure he is sitting at a table waiting for his "date." Come in with the baby, walk to his table, and say "I'm the woman you are supposed to meet. Here are divorce papers I'm filing. I've documented all of your transactions with the woman I made up. You are so going to be screwed over. Here is a bag of enough clothes for a couple days. I'll let you know when you can pick up more stuff." Make sure you also prepare financially to freeze accounts and transfer money out. OR you can sit down with him and tell him you found those dating sites. If he hasn't actually met anyone or sent messages, there could be a good chance to work through this situation before someone actually does make a regrettable decision.
2016-05-22 03:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't think people on dating sites told the truth did you? Someone married several times would NOT be a good bet to get in touch with, they likely would be financially strapped and have many unresolved issues.
2006-11-19 06:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a sympathy approach. To admit he was married might not be as appealing. And he WAS widowed, not just lately..
2006-11-19 06:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to know "why" to move on! His intentions are perfectly clear. He's a "three-time loser" that unfortunately, you married.
It's apparent that he's already "looking" for the "next" victim, dump him before he causes you any more heartache.
You deserve far better than he is capable of offering, good luck.
2006-11-19 06:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's hoping he's widowed from you... or maybe he's planning to make sure he's widowed from you. Better watch out!!
2006-11-19 06:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants the sympathy vote from women.... nobody wants a guy who has been married so many times
2006-11-19 06:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he didnt want other people thinking he has a hard-to-get-along-with personality (the guy must be hard-to-get-along-with if hes gotten divorced 4 times.......)
2006-11-19 06:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by maya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get women to feel sorry for him and sympathize with him when there's nothing to sympathize about.
2006-11-19 06:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Team Jolie-Pitt Aniston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋