me and my wife have been seperated but still live in our home that we both own and have 3 boys but none of us r willing to leave the house and she is talking to other guys and she says she is going through a mid life crisis and im stuck between a rock and a hard place.i dont want my kids to see us going through this.please help.
2006-11-19 05:49:06 · 10 answers · asked by nader m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get your own place then and let her have her time .She may realize the grass is not greener somewhere else .Walk away with some pride . If she doesn't want you have some pride and leave now .
2006-11-19 05:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if ya'll are still living in the same house you are not going through a divorce. Therefore if she is seeing other men I would get a lawyer and file for a divorce on the grounds of Adultry. Then I would have her thrown out on her as*. She is obviously not thinking about anyone other than herself including those children. What kind of example is she making for those kids by being with other men while you are still in her life. If I were you I would make damn sure I got those kids during the divorce.
2006-11-19 14:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by April C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
Your wife is being very "selfish" and "immature". If you are "separated" but financially unable to live in different places, you need to have some "guidelines"! This is a recipe for "disaster" for everyone involved, especially your children. Children do not belong in the middle of "adult issues", thankfully at least one of you realizes that.
Your wife's actions are extremely inappropriate. If she exposes your children to her actions, they will only lose all "respect" for her. They are children and she has needs to put their welfare above her own selfish desires. A "mid-life" crisis is not an "excuse".
Hire an attorney, you need to "protect" your children and yourself from her irresponsible actions. It sounds like she is trying to "provoke" you into doing something stupid, don't let her!
Keep written records of "everything" she is doing so when the time comes, you can back up your statements. Take your children to "counselling", you need to make sure that they are able to handle these "adult" issues that your wife is "dragging" them into.
I am so sorry, you don't deserve this, you sound like a wonderful father. Hang in there, get some outside help if you need to. I think the obvious best solution would be if your wife would "leave" and take her "issues" with her!
Concentrate on your boys, they need your love and support now. It's important for their lives to be as "stable" as possible. You need to do whatever you have to in order to make that happen.
I wish you all the best.
2006-11-19 14:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to work things out talk to her and let her know how you feel. If you still love her try to work things out, if it is over then you 2 need to sit down and talk about what is going to happen, cause you 2 can divorce and live in the same house and date but it will be hard on everyone.Good Luck
2006-11-19 14:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off one of you needs to be the bigger person and leave if not for the sake of your children then for your sanity. this is not a healthy situation. if the children are old enough to know that you guys are no longer togeather it will confuse them greatly to see you guys dating diff pple. just let her keep the house and you find yourself a nice apartment or house. i tell you to let her keep the house becauase ur reaching out and feel that this isint right, be strong and be there for your kids in the long run all will work out good luck
2006-11-19 13:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
News flash: you don't think the children know whats going on? Do you not think that they can't "feel" the tension?
When my ex and I decided to get a divorce we engaged a counselor who helped us and our son make the best decisions on how to handle it.
It was the best divorce that I have ever encountered becuase we focused on the person who would be most impacted: our son.
2006-11-19 13:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG - this doesn't sound good. I'm sorry but divorce is next and for dad's, its usually downhill from there. The wife/mother gets the house and kids. The dad/husband gets to pay for it all. I hope the best for you. Get a good lawyer!
2006-11-19 13:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to court and get the court to allow you to sell the house
or re-finance it into her name and you take 1/2 the proceeds of
the re-financing....You can get the court to resolve this issue
whether she likes it or not...You are not stuck with her in a jointly
owned home...
2006-11-19 13:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling by yourself. You will get some good strategies for dealing with the situation. Good luck.
2006-11-19 13:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person and leave !!!
2006-11-19 18:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋