I was talking to one of my friends in the hall at school. We were the only ones in the hall and then I saw this guy coming at a distance. He started mocking the way I laugh and I tried to ignore him as best as I could. So I went on talking to my friend but when the guy came up to us and yelled boobs! and just walked off. So my question is - would this be considered sexual harassment? I have no idea what to do. He's done things like this in the past but when it was reported, nothing was done about it. If this happened last Friday, would it be too late to report it? Would it be okay if my friend was the only witness? Thanks so much! I'm sorry it was so long!
2006-11-19 05:02:29 · 14 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't know whether I should tell my parents because they always shrug it off and claim he's just flirting. But he's also bullied me around in the past.
2006-11-19 05:14:01 · update #1
I hope this helps: Just what is sexual harassment? The book Coping With Sexual Harassment and Gender Bias, by Dr. Victoria Shaw, defines it as “bothering someone in a sexual way . . . It can be physical (such as touching someone in a sexual way), verbal (such as making unwelcome comments about someone’s appearance), or nonverbal.” Sometimes the harassment involves crude propositions.
The Bible condemns “obscene jesting.” (Ephesians 5:3, 4) Therefore, you have a right to feel angry, upset, confused, and even demeaned when you are harassed!
How, then, should you react if someone bothers you in this way? Sometimes a weak or vague response only makes a harasser try harder. The Bible tells us that when Joseph was propositioned by his employer’s wife, he did not simply ignore her. Instead, he firmly rejected her immoral advances. (Genesis 39:8, 9, 12) Today, being firm and direct is still the best way to fend off harassment.
Simply saying something like, ‘I don’t like that kind of talk’ or, may get your point across. However you word it, do not water down your message. Let your no mean no! If [He] does not catch on to your kind hints, you have to tell [him] straight out. It often comes to that. A firm ‘CUT IT OUT!’ may do the job.
If the situation escalates, do not try to handle things alone. Try talking it over with your parents or other MATURE adults. They may have some practical suggestions for dealing with the situation. As a last resort, they may even feel it necessary to alert school officials. As uncomfortable as doing so might make you, it could protect you from further victimization.
2006-11-19 05:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by jvitne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is sexual harassment, and no I would not list the reason for leaving as such. I would put "difference of opinions" or something less aggressive. The reason being is because there is a lot of false accusations in sexual harassment, and putting that on your app may be a red flag to a potential employer that may have had a bad experience with a false accusation. I would put down something vague and I would not go into much detail if asked. It sounds too gossipy, even though it is true, a boss doesn't want to hear gossip about a former boss. Rise above it and keep it simple and professional!
2016-05-22 03:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy likes you and some guys when they like some girls, they loose the ability to speak coherently. Maybe he wants to say something else to you, but that is the only thing that flies out of his mouth.
I say, hunt him down, no not with a gun, find the guy and have this conversation with him, let him start to talk to you using all the vowels and consonants he can muster, you might find he is a nice person, anyway if you confront him until you KNOW the conversation is over, he will either be a new friend for you, or will run the other way when he sees you.
Great luck
2006-11-19 05:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by wildmedicsue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whom did you report it to the last times? If nothing was done, was he still aware that a report was made? Because this happened am assuming in high school it will be hard to prove sexual harrassment because most adults laugh off the behaviour of teenage boys as immature rather than illegal. My opinion is that yes it would be if this were in any other situation and you were not a student. As annoying as he is, karma will take care of him. Report him if only if you are sure action will be taken. He may continue to do this because he likes the 'attention' you give him.
2006-11-19 05:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure if it would be harrassment. maybe? Yea if it bothers u and he keeps doing it I would tell someone. Make him feel like an a** when he says stuff like that I would clap really loud and say---OH!! yea! big boy learned a new word 2day!! aren't u soooo smart? or if he yells boobs! I would yell; tiny penis!!
2006-11-19 05:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was, but this boy should not be disrupting during school hours. If he persists to try to make you uncomfortable I would believe it would be sexual harassment.
2006-11-19 05:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much of an harrasment ,not really sexual ,just an anoying guy who is a pain in the A´´
say something demeaning and sarcastic to him .make him look stupid
2006-11-19 05:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since the guy wasn't actually making gestures toward YOU it may not be strong enough to win a sexual harassment accusation, HOWEVER you could turn him in for just plain harassment.
2006-11-19 05:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say he likes you and is too immature to show it properly. If he keeps doing it though you probably should report him for harassment
2006-11-19 05:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by murnip 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Boob" or "Boobs" also means a stupid person. Although most people think of the other meaning. Don't be a boob.
2006-11-19 05:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋