So I have NEVER been in the same kitchen before with my mother-in-law and THIS Thanksgiving she asked ME to help HER!
Any suggestion's? What should I cook? Should I bring something extra? We will be cooking for 7ppl. Thanks!!
BTW....I will be baking a pumpkin cranberry nut bread for breakfast (but that's cooking from MY kitchen and NOT in front of her,I know I shouldn't be intimidated (especially after 10yrs) but like I said it's my first Thanksgiving cooking WITH/BESIDE her)
2006-11-19 04:57:45 · 7 answers · asked by babyN 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
Remember that mother in laws had mother in laws too. If you get along with your mother in law, then just act normal, have fun and allow her to make the main decisions; it is of course her kitchen. Accept her suggestions with grace and all should be fine. If she loves to cook, she already knows what has to be done, so ask her when you get there, what she would like you to cook - whether its the potatoes, cranberries, etc. And if you are not sure how to cook them, ask her, make her the center of the cooking and don't try to make it a competition. Good luck
2006-11-19 05:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Randy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone,and here is my two sense. Mispelling intentional. 1: I am a MIL. and I am a mean one,too. That is intentional,as my SIL seduced my 16 year old daughter,and he was 32. Soooo, in my opinion, I disliked that man from the get-go. 2: you hubby is a pu$$y. He needs to grow a backbone and he needs to be set down and told that just because his Mommy and Auntie did things there way for all these years, well, then there needs to be a change, huh? It is your house,too. HE is being unreasonable. YOU are not. Include her and let MIL know that she can help, and it is appreciated, but any interfering, is not welcomed. Put your foot down. Let him know that this year, the cooking will be done by you or he can have Turkey dinner at his mommy's house. Sounds like he needs to grow up and grow some balls. He needs to stand up to his mommy. He is still a little boy at heart. All that said, this is my take: My SIL is a decent enough guy, but he knows I dislike him,and we are ok with that. He dislikes me, I dislike him. We have gotten along that way ever since. And we only met once and I didn't like him,then,and told him not to touch my daughter. Guess he doesn't listen too well, eh ? If it were me,and i had some younger person offering to cook, you can bet your sweet oven mitts, I would sit back,and knit ( or crochet,if that is what I am working on) and relax and let someone else do the cooking. :D Screw the cooking, lemme EAT !! What your hubby done, was in poor taste: he did not consult you first. My hubby always consults me, and if I do not want to do something, then he goes and does his own thing ,and lets me do mine. It is called "compromise." Big thing in a marriage. The holidays are the most stressful time of year for most people. Sounds like this year will be for you too. But do talk to your hubby and if not then, talk to your MIL. Make her see that it is YOUR house,too, and let her know that she can Help, but not take over. (Also, I'd sit back and let you do all the cooking, to see just how well you could feed my son. Wink, Wink)
2016-05-22 03:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the prep for her - chopping onions and celery, slicing mushrooms, peeling potatoes, etc. She will be delighted at getting out of the tedious part and there won't be any conflicts about the actual cooking. If you see her doing something really horrendous like putting way too much salt in something for your taste, just bite your tongue since its just one meal anyway.
2006-11-19 05:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything will be fine. It sounds like you are a good cook and she cares about you so you have nothing to worry about. Worst case scenario, if she has a complaint remind her how well fed you keep her son and how he hasn't complained about your cooking.
2006-11-19 05:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what her plans for dinner are and what she wants you to make and follow her lead Let her be in charge and you will end up on her good side
2006-11-19 05:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by norsmen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have fun and because she is older, fallow her lead.
Best of wishes to you.
2006-11-19 05:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck to you. I'm sure everything will be fine.
2006-11-19 05:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋