This morning my husband and daughter made themselves breakfast?

Question

then saddled up the horses and went riding.

I woke to an empty house. I had a cup of coffee, then cleaned the diastrous kitchen. When they returned I made lunch, and cleaned the kitchen again.

My husband asked me if I enjoyed my morning of solitude.

Should I

A) Explain to him that I am not his Mother, and one cup of coffee in peace does not a vacation make.

OR

B) Put tabasco sauce in the crotch of his shorts (which I am currently wash, dry, folding)?

Yes, I am a typical woman. We get stuck with ALL the dirty work.

Answer 1

Thanks for the morning chuckle.

Answer 2

Wow! Well he tried to do something good by giving you some peace...but he should have cleaned the kitchen.

I would tell him that it was a nice bit of effort, but next time clean the kitchen so you can truly enjoy some solitude. Maybe he can make you breakfast before he leaves and clean the dishes when he gets back?

Good idea, bad execution.

I would reserve option b) only if he was being a smart ***. You could also eat something really hot and spicy then give him head...and act innocent when he spazzes out in pain. That is only if he is being a complete asshole and treating you like a slave. That is in leau of actually talking in a mature, responsible way.

Maybe use this as a dialogue to expand his activities in the house. If he says it is "woman's work", I would totally go passive aggressive on his butt. You are a creative woman, I am sure you know exactly what I mean.

Answer 3

lol.... oh, I'm so sorry. My kids don't do their dishes very timely either. Yet they blame me for a messy house, every time! Ack!

It sounds like they really did think they were doing something nice for you. It's probably a good idea to acknowledge that and thank them for their intentions.

After you've done that, and given it a good long pause, it would be okay to explain that you felt obliged to clean up the kitchen when you woke--which wasn't very restful--and after they returned and made lunch too. Perhaps they don't mind letting dishes lay about for a while, and you obviously do. Sounds like a compromise is in order for that sort of thing. Maybe they should do some cleanup immediately (like getting them all into the sink), then have them totally cleaned up before something else happens (like needing to make the next meal, or them going on to their next activity).

If you can negotiate said compromise, I'm betting your next "morning of solitude" will be a bit better.

Remember... you love them, and they love you. And everyone's needs can be met when everyone is willing to work on it. :-)

Answer 4

Well if you have to, then choose A. The poor guy did have good intentions at heart.. If my husband did the same thing, it would make me laugh at how dumb he could be to do something like what happened to you, and think that he was doing you a favour! And anyway, if you put tabasco sauce 'down there' then you'd both be losing out...at the 'end' of the day.. Choose A.

Answer 5

Keep your sense of humor already. How about saying its not a morning off officially until the dishes are done and lunch is made?

If you need time off this bad, you're going to need to make it for yourself. They will adapt. If you want to go riding, go riding. What's stopping you? Tell them to clean up the kitchen themselves. There isn't any reason to get angry. They got it half right, now bring them round the whole way. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would opt for either:

C) Asking him for a maid and a masseuse if he plans on leaving a huge mess next time. That would really make your morning of solitude more relaxing.

D) No matter how much it bugged you to do so, I would have left the mess and a note for them when they returned with instructions on how to clean up the mess. Oh yes, and also a chore list for my daughter who is old enough to go out riding her own horse (and is obviously old enough to help with dishes, laundry, etc.). In the meantime I would have gone out riding myself and then came home and taken a nice, relaxing bubble bath!

Answer 7

I go with answer a. or a variation of it. I'd tell him having my coffee in peace was great but next time I'd appreciate it if they cleaned up after themselves. I would not have made them lunch. I would have left the mess there for them to clean up and told them so.

Answer 8

You should of told him you enjoyed your morning of solitude very much. And since you enjoyed being alone, you left the dirty kitchen alone. You didn't make the mess and you refuse to clean it up. And since he's capable of cooking breakfast, you will tell him what you would like him to cook for lunch. The dirty kitchen awaits him, what is he going to do about it?

Answer 9

What are you complaining about? They thought they were giving you a chance to sleep in. You should have left the dishes for them to clean up. Maybe they would have made YOU lunch. Pick your battles. Not all need to turn out to be a WAR!

Answer 10

After dinner is made tonight leave the dishes and mess for him and your daughter to pick up, kiss him on the cheek and tell him cleaning up will make up for this mornings disaster then go to bed or take a bath. Men need things visually, either in writing or seeing it for themselves.

Answer 11

Since you have not provided any statistical data regarding how often this happens, I must choose "A". You also did not state weather he does anything around the house. Does he flush the toilet after using it?

At least be happy he's taking the time to interact with your child.