so he tlked to me lastnight. and was saying how he missed the things we used to do. in other words sex and everything. and then he said hes happy and hes not affaird to tlk to other ppl and all this bullshit. and then he asked if we wanted to be friends with benafits. and i said uh idont know. what shoudl i do? if i keep blowing him off do u think it will make him miss me and come back to me???? please help!
2006-11-19 04:51:58 · 12 answers · asked by californiababe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He obviously only wants you for sex so if you keep refusing him off, he'll look for it elsewhere. He doesn't seem to want to be in a real relationship with you. You're better off without him.
2006-11-19 04:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you say sure we can b friends w/ benefits then it shows im that he can take advantage of u which isn't good! but if u want 2 make him sad by u not talkin 2 him and stuff then go ahead and do that. but, u can't let it be a half relationship kinda deal! If he calls u after a week and a half or so b cuz he's upset tht u didn't call him bak thn u need 2 explain stuff and tell him y u didn't call him bak. let him kno where u are standing at.
hope this helps!!
2006-11-19 12:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by london.paris17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better, don't fall for his line of crap. He's not "offering" you anything!
"Friends" do not have sex with each other. If he was your "friend", he would be putting your best interests first. He's "selfish" and "immature" & only thinking of himself. The only possible "benefits" involved would be the ones he would be receiving!
If he really cared for you, he'd be with you. What he "misses" is sex! You're worth more than that, and you should be treated with "respect". Don't allow any residual feelings you may have for him make you consider such a selfish request.
Best of luck to you.
2006-11-19 13:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with benefits is never a good thing especially with an ex because then there are feelings that can come back, apparently ya'll broke up for a reason so leave it at that. If its meant to be then ya'll will be together.
2006-11-19 12:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's asking if he can continue to have meaningless sex with you while he looks for a real girlfriend who he will treat nice and fall in love with. He won't miss you because he doesn't really care about you. He just wants to get laid so he can be respectful to "real" women. Blow him off for good. He doesn't care about you at all. Men don't love women who don't value themselves or their bodies.
2006-11-19 12:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ether that or he will just move on the thing is dont do that if u love him i dont think u would be happy with just friends with benifits say no and see that happens tell him the truth
2006-11-19 13:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he misses the sex. needs to miss you. think he wants the sex and thats it. be smart and don't get used. know you didn't want to here that but the truth hurts sorry.
2006-11-19 13:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by tweed801 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, he will only come back to get some..and you know what I mean..
He has it set in his head he is only in it with you for the sex..
Move on and find a guy who wants you for more than a good time...
2006-11-19 12:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This depends on what you want. If you want the actual relationship, then don't do the "friends with benefits" crap. Then, you are just giving him what he wants (sex) without getting what you want. (The relationship.)
2006-11-19 12:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
QUIT BEING SO EASY. GET SOME SELF RESPECT AND DUMP THIS LOSER!
2006-11-19 12:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋