Do you think it's possible to truley forgive someone you love after he/she has hurt you? When I say hurt, I mean, he/she has emotionally destroyed you through words and through actions. Do you think it's really possible to forgive someone and never bring up the past? Generally speaking, in any relationship, do you think it's actually possible to forgive and forget?
2006-11-19 03:48:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
People can forgive when they truly love each other but forgetting takes some time..
2006-11-19 07:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. Forgive, maybe. Forget never! It is so hard to forget. You live your life everyday but it is always in the back of your mind. Then you are likely to bring it up in a fight, know what I mean? Is this person truly worth you forgiving after they destroyed you? You would have to be really strong and tell this person that if it ever happened again that it would be the end of everything.
2006-11-19 04:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in forgiving and forgetting, but not getting amnesia. If someone hurts me, I can move on and forgive, but I'm not going to continue to put myself in a place where they can hurt me again. The past is a huge part of who we are and if we can learn from it, all the better.
Someone once told me that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
2006-11-19 03:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can forgive, but u never forget. If you want, it is up to you to forgive, but move on from the pain & anger that has happened to you. Im not saying it will happen overnite, sometimes it can be a long process to forgive & get over things. But if u want things to really work, forgive & move on from them & do whatever it takes to not let it happen again. Sumtimes I think everyone deserves a second chance, but if it keeps happening, move on somewhere else.
2006-11-19 03:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people truly forgive, but i do not think people forget, unless it is as a natural process , like through sickness.
I also think people who have not been in such situations really know what it is like to be hurt and destroyed to such an extent as you are describing...so only such people would really know the answer.
I think then that people may forgive, but i don't think they will ever forget.
2006-11-19 05:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Featherman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone did something to my daughter when she was young. (she's 27 now) When I confronted them, they vehemently denied it. They passed away in 1997. Even though they are gone, I still can not forgive them. If they would of just admitted what they did, I could forgive.
Sure...I could say that everything's alright and they're forgiven, but I know deep down in my heart, that I don't. This tears me up inside because being raised as a Christian, I was taught to forgive anybody for anything.
I told myself that, if I were ever to go to one of John Edwards "Cossing Over" shows and this person came through, I would forgive them if they admitted their wrongdoing, even if they weren't sorry...
2006-11-19 04:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Milkaholic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, to some extent. Some things your mind just won't let you forget and the images keep popping up here and there. But, I've tried to forgive and forget, but the past raises it's ugly head every now and then.
2006-11-19 03:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on people. Some people can forgive anything and everything. Some can forgive nothing.
In those situation stated by you I can not forgive or forget.
2006-11-19 04:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shoeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evaluate Jesus' occasion, He asked God to forgive people who crucified and killed Him. in case you have been deeply harm by utilising somebody, you're in all probability feeling diverse anger/resentment in direction of that individual, and probably you experience like forgiveness is only out of the question, yet you be attentive to in the lower back of your thoughts forgiveness is the spectacular ingredient to do. If it is the place you finally end up, only pour your coronary heart out and tell God the way you experience approximately it, and which you be attentive to you ought to forgive yet only cant discover it interior your self to do it, and then, ask Him that might assist you get to the element the place you may forgive him. it ought to take a while, yet God will assist you to do it.
2016-10-22 08:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive for your own sake but don't forget. And don't give them another chance to hurt you. People don't change. Stay away from this person.
2006-11-19 04:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋