Last night i got drunk and ended up sleeping in the same bed as one of my male friends (who i also happen to have a humongous crush on!) Nothing really happened except a whole lot of snuggling and a tiny kiss. Now he knows how i feel about him, he says there is a possibility that something could happen between us. This would be amazing- EXCEPT for my boyfriend of 18 months! We have had troubles in the past but we are a good couple, we love each other and lately things have been the best ever. He really adores me and i love him with no uncertainly- except when my male friend is around! We have a long distance relationship as i am at uni so i often see my friend more than my boyfriend. I know breaking up with my boyfriend for a crush that might amount to nothing would be a ridiculous thing to do, but i just cant get my friend out of my head- surely if i loved my boyfriend as much as i think i do, this wouldnt be so! My head is such a mess right now! Console/advise please!
2006-11-19 03:25:41 · 8 answers · asked by MiniMed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's all over for you and the boyfriend. I would already consider you a devious cow for your actions so far. Pray he never finds out and holds a grudge like I do or you'll be paying for this for years. Your boyfriend is the poor innocent party here and you don't deserve to be happy with the crush either. Infact-go with the crush and I hope he does the same to you.
2006-11-19 03:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Thinker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Luckily you are not married... Leave the steady, long distance is a bad idea in anyway. And the fact that you already had problems in the relationship after 18 months is a bad sign. Go for the greener pastures, even if it does not work out. Remember, at uni you will meet many people, and you must date as much as possible. Forget about serious relationships for a while and have fun. that is my vote!
2006-11-19 11:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by krisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your alone in this situation. Long distance relationships can be a strain. Even long time married couples are known to seek a "comfort" relationship when a partner is away for a long time. It doesn't neccesarily mean its a sexual relationship, just somebody for companionship. But I'm asuming you feel more for this fella than that. Perhaps you only feel this way because it's a case of wanting something you can't have. I would ask your boyfriend how he thinks your own relationship is going before you make any decisions.
2006-11-19 11:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I can give is time. Sit on your own without b/f or friend there and write down most of the qualities you like most from each of them.
The fact that you have been with your b/f for 18 months matters no more because you have risen to the feelings portrayed by your friend. Wey up those on paper and then tell yourself who matters more-- your boyfriend or your friend with an obvious benefit. This is down to you alone so its up to you.
Do you take the risk or remain friends but not go there when he's around. For the sake of a 'crush' is it really worth taking the risk of becoming lonely?
2006-11-19 11:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is ' a possibility ' of something happening btw u and ur uni friend said he - is it really worth throwing away ur relationship for jusy a possibility? and how do u know that ur crush will develope into more? u might dump ur bf and start seeing this uni bloke and then realise u dont even fancy him properly?! think it thru but give urself a break from ur uni friend but also ask urself - how fair are u being on ur bf?
2006-11-19 11:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at all the answers here and have a good long think.
no relationship comes trouble or baggage free- just remember that when choosing who you want to be with!!
i wouldnt leave the bf on the chance that 'maybe something could happen' with the other.
why is it only a maybe??
2006-11-19 12:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go out with either. It's not fair on either of them if you still have feelings for the other. Spend some time on your own away from them both and sort your head out instead of messing them around.
2006-11-19 11:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
steady boyfriend! the crush could last a few weeks then you will realise what you had in the beginning & lost!!!!
2006-11-19 11:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by BLONDESHELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋