Every thing that goes wrong in his life is my fault(even at his work)
He does dishes 1x a week and had a fit and threw the pots and pans in the garbage while screaming obsenities at me.I havent been this unhappy since I was a child.
What can I do to make him see that its HIS problems and he shouldnt take them out on the rest of us?
2006-11-19 03:10:27 · 14 answers · asked by Addie B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we met when I was 15 didnt date till around 19
2006-11-19 03:16:57 · update #1
Write him a sweet letter telling him how much you love him but how much his yelling is hurting you and how it is unfair that he takes his problems out on you if you didn't do anything wrong.
2006-11-19 03:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
You need to evaluate why you are with him. You also need to try and figure out why he is acting this way. Maybe he is really upset about something and doesn't know how to talk about it. Guys are horrible at showing their true feelings and asking for help. Help is what he needs. Whether it's from you or a Marriage Councilor. If you don't feel safe with him then you should leave the house. He needs to see that you won't put up with his anger anymore. He also needs to evaluate how much you mean to him. Calmly tell him that you no longer feel like he loves you and that you are going to go and stay with a friend until he figures his life out. Also tell him that you love him and want to help him. You have to be there for him but you also have to look after yourself first.
Be strong. Follow your heart.
2006-11-19 11:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tassie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best response for a jerk is no response---walk away---silent treatment this jerk----go on with your life and don't include the ******!
You're in control of your own unhappiness and he's bringing you down and you're guilty of letting him.
If the threw the pots and pans away ----go out and buy new ones---hit him in the pocket book and buy expensive cookware!!!
Get replacements of what you want!
2006-11-19 11:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His fits could get uglier, so I strongly suggest that you talk things out with him ASAP, and if he does not cool his jets, then without informing him, leave him for a few days, in order to allow him time to compel himself. Stay with family, or friends, and make sure to keep telephone contact with him, when he realizes the error of his ways, as well as experiences the loss of the best thing in his life, believe me, he'll make the necessary changes in order to stabilize your relationship. Good Luck.
2006-11-19 11:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some distance from this man. Can you spend some time with a good friend or a family member, while he has time to think and you too. Definitely need counseling if you want to stay with him.
2006-11-19 11:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we aren't really getting to much of the story here....Do you work?..Are the dishes only done 1x a week period...or he only does 1x a week.....Communication is the answer to most problems.......We take out our frustrations on those we love the most....maybe wrong....but its true.....With so little info.....hard to find good answer......
2006-11-19 11:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the answer talk to him and find out what's really wrong. Good luck
2006-11-19 11:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by aj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be post holiday blues? holidays bring depression to some , could he be going thru any of this? he could just be taking all his stress related issues out on you and in other ways. no he shouldn't treat you like that and it will prob. end after this up coming holiday.
2006-11-19 11:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he starts getting violent, it could be dangerous for you. You might need to call social services or the police.
2006-11-19 11:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Feathery 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him see anything unless he is willing to accept responsiblity...I don't know if its due to the length of time of your marriage or maybe it's his age...but I definitely wouldn't tolerate his verbal abuse...and you shouldn't either...
2006-11-19 11:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to suck it up and stop balmming me for his problems if he cont'd to talk to me like that I would leave him and tell him I deserve respect
2006-11-19 11:15:42 · answer #11 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋