HELP ME PLEASE!!!sex at 15?

Question

i have a boyfriend and... we were thinking of having sex... is that wrong at 15? i don't know what to do.. i love him and stuff, but i am still insecure... and he didn't try to force me... but somehow i want to please him because i talked about this with him and i know he wants to...

Answer 1

Dont do it

Answer 2

It sounds like you're thinking mostly about HIS needs, not yours! that's a bad way to get started in life. If he really loves you, he should wait 'til YOU are ready. BTW, how old is he? If he's older, he may think he can use his "charm" or whatever, to persuade you.

And PLEASE don't buy into the
"I have to have it or I'll explode" story! It's just a line guys use to make girls feel sorry and give in. Trust me...he'll find a way to "relieve" his needs!

I notice you didn't mention birth control or monogamy! Do you know if he's slept w/anyone else? If so, in terms of risking STD's, you would be sleeping with everyone he's ever slept with AND everyone THEY have ever slept with! It could add up to dozens of people or more!

Before you decide to have sex, you should BOTH be tested for HIV and other STDS, then be re-tested (for HIV) in 6 mos (it can take that long to show up). The reason I say "both", is because if you go, it'll show him you're fair and will tell you a LOT if he refuses!

You should also get a reliable form of birth control, such as the Pill AND a condom. Think for a LONG time, too, what you would do if you did get pregnant and how it would change your life. If you do, you have only 3 (humane) options:

1) Abortion
2) Have and keep the baby (a lifetime commitment).
3) Have and give up the baby for adoption.

Are you ready for any of these? It doesn't sound like it! The only birth control method that's 100% effective is abstinence. It's not a moral issue, just common sense.

Why jeopardize your future and your health for a few minutes of (probably mostly HIS) pleasure? If he keeps pressuring you, he's being selfish and you should put him on a "back burner" or dump him outright! Wait for a guy who respects you and puts your needs alongside his own.

Check out the sites below, for info on teen pregnancy facts, including risks. (the first site is more for teens).

P.S: Someone above said to use oral sex instead! I disagree. You can catch SEVERAL STD's that way, including Herpes and gonorrhea. Also, there is STILL no certainty that you can't get HIV through oral sex, since the virus can pass through the skin inside your mouth (it's very thin), or if you have cuts, say from braces.

Answer 3

I understand what you are going thru. I do want you to know that @ 15 , sex is very much wrong on so many levels. I understand that you love him it's great that he isn't pressuring you, but still, it's alot. You can get pregnant, you can get an std and sex is an emotional thing you may not be able to handle @ this young age. Your insecurities shouldn't be what hold you back from sex, it should be that u just want to wait so that u can do the rite thing. The minute u aren't insecure, you'll go ahead and do it. I know you want to please your boyfriend, but @ 15, sex is too much of a major step. It's confusing, but I'm telling you that isn't the way to go. Take things slow.You're only 15.
By the way, I'm 16 and I'm not having sex with my boyfriend because it's important to me to save myself for marriage. I don't wana be like every1 else. Just take my advice and wait.

Answer 4

Its all mental. You hev 2 b ready mentalley + asking other ppl if u should hve sex or not is not the best choice, and all ppl r diffrenet so if soem1 here told u they had sex @ 15 adn it was awful well tht means they rushed their maturity and the only reason it was awful was becuase they werent menatlly ready adn by meantlley ready i dont mean just noeing all the diseases out there and how to do it right. All im saying is only YOU noe not any1 on yahoo answers, not some chick who got knocked up adn is now pregananet as a teen or anything. so, when u go 2 ur boyfriend and say im ready hes gna trust u 2 be ready and if u love him like u said then if soemthing is uncmomftorabel or u were trying + it didnt work for u im sure he'll understand. good luck

Answer 5

Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm

Why Cultivate Virtue?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2001/1/15/article_01.htm
You Can Remain Chaste in an Immoral World
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2000/7/15/article_01.htm

Each of these URLs will likely be changed soon. After that, the Advanced Search at http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.ht... will find the new URL.

Answer 6

Morally speaking of course its wrong...but even if we all give you so much advice and tell u the pros and cons in the end its really up to whether u want to go through it..and this is coming from a girl the same age as you...if your doubting u wanting to do it then obviously your not ready...and its true if he loves u and u love him then u should respect eachother until the time is right either being marriage or when ever u are both ready...

remember the girl has much more to lose than a guy.... and plus how sure are you that he doesnt just want that and then eventually once he gets bored..leaves u...? so think about it and whether u still have doubts then dont do it...but in the end its up to you...so good luck and becareful...

also mentality has alot to do whether ur ready or not..so be aware of all the outcomes to ur decision...

Answer 7

Just because you both want to doesn't mean it is the right thing to do at both your ages.

You both are full of hormons and emotions and can be overwhelming sometimes.

Have you both discussed protection?
What about pregnancy options?
Pregnancy?
How you two will raise a child?
Have you two been tested yet, doesn't matter if virgin or not?
Are you comfertable with discussing this information with your doctor?

You are still insecure and you deep down know you are not ready.

Wait and put sex off. You both need to give your time to eachother and have the relationship grow strong.

if you have sex and you both break up 5 months down the road, will you regret it? Do you feel you will regret it if a new guy came along and you developed feelings for him?

It is best to wait until you both been together for a long time (I say 2 years and up) and these things have been discussed to a great extent. He can say one thing but do another once the issue happens.

Need your mind to be cought up with your heart and be 100% ready.

Answer 8

Let's put it this way..............YOU ARE ONLY 15 YEARS OLD!! you have the rest of your life to have sex. Remember if you start having sex there are responsibilities that come along with it too. If you get pregnant that will be a big responsibility for the rest of your life!! Make sure that whatever it is you decide to do that you are sure you can deal with the consequences of your actions! If you cannot then you probably should wait until you can. I am not telling you to do it or not to do it but i can tell you this........those who started early and got pregnant early that i know all admitt they wish they would of waited and even though they love thier children they wish they could have those childhood times back. If you are going to have sex make sure you know about birth control and disease prevention. It is a big step and it does come with a lot of responsabilities. I wanted to have sex since i was 11 but i waited until i was 19. Instead of having sex i just had oral sex with my partners that way we knew we wouldn't have to worry about the pregnancy thing. Know your body and know the precautions you need to make before you take the step as well as thinking of the consequences and the effects of what could happen if you do. Sex is a great thing but like i said it does come with responsibilities, make sure you are well informed on everything before you make your decision!!!!

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Before you read the 1st line please consider reading it all and think about it PLEASE!!!!

No its not a good idea to have sex at 15... I know like I am gonna sound like I am lecturing you but if he does love you , he will wait.. Your body is more precious than that.... Respect yourself enough to wait.. I know its hard and I can say from experience that I didn't wait too long either but boy do I wish I had..
The love you 2 are feeling isn't what love is about... Let me explain..
I have been with my hubby 20 years and through this whole time (sometimes)I was disgusted with him and so forth...But ultimately , I loved him .. That's love...
What you 2 are feeling is Lust...I am sure you care for him but sex is not the answer,, Get to know each other and have fun together but leave sex outta it..
Yeah , your peers will pressure you and most of society will say WHY NOT.. But I say ... NO WAY....
Sweety , I do understand you better than you know.. i always wanted to please my guy too but I ended up heartbroken and no longer a virgin..
Maybe some people would say Virginity is sooo overrated but think of this.. IF YOU GIVE IT AWAY , YOU HAVE NO MORE CHANCES AT IT....
Once is all you get..... Since once is all you get, wouldn't it seem like a good idea to save it as long as possible??
I hope you think really hard about this ... Its not just something that you do lightly,,,

Answer 10

You should not be having sex because you want to please him, even if he isn't forcing you. I wish you had said what age he is. If your insecure about it then it's not the time to have sex.
You want to wait to have sex until you are absolutely certain that this is what YOU want and with who YOU want. Because you don't want to ruin it or the relationship with regrets.
I strongly recommend that you rethink having sex until you are older. Any sex, even safe sex isn't fool proof, condoms fail, the pill isn't 100% effective and pregnancy is always a possibility. And until you think you are ready to deal with the consequences of sex you should wait.
If you do decide to have sex use a condom everytime even if you go get the pill. It's not a bad idea to have back up birth control. Consider making an appointment with planned parenthood.

Answer 11

wait till you feel its the right time. so he wants it, are you sure thats not all he wants from you? how long have you been dating. my bf and i talked abotu it alot when we first started dating (2 years ago) so i made him stick it ouy. i wasnt comfrtable with the idea. just liek you. i waited over a year and a half into the relationship to do it. cause i knew he really loved me (im 19 now, but i knew that wasnt what he was after in the first place) if you are still uncomfortable then dont do it yet. you will only regret it in the long run. but i think you are too young still and sex is a very emotional thing to do. if you give it to him then you break up you would have regrets going "well maybe i should have given my virginit to my husband, ect" you sould wait till you are in a long term realtionship and really know that the person is there FOR YOU not FOR SEX. plus you can please your bpoyfirned in other ways... it doenst have to be sexual! you can always make him a romantic lunch and go out to a movie ect. there are many other ways to please a guy than sexual pleasures. since you are still insecure you should wait till you are more uncomfortable with him and know that HES THE ONE, or could be the one. otherwise you will regret it. your bf mst know how you feel. if you want to wait then he will wait if he respects you and cause he just doesnt want the sex he wants to be with you alltogether.. anyways whenever he time arises use a condom! and be on birth contorl so you dont become a pregant teen.

good luck stay safe.

but i do think you are too young and you are already insecure about it so dont!, stop thinking about it and focus on school! =D get into a good college, ect

and dont let him pressure you into anything dont let hi mgive you crap liek "oh if you dont have sex with me im going to break up with you!" if he pulls that crap then leave him cause in other words he's sayign "hey i just want sex from you!" and dont let his friends nor your pressure you into having sex. who cares ifother people are doing it! we all have our own choices we make along the lines of life. make the right choice and wait till you are more secure with your bf and all.