I just found out that Im pregnant. I want this baby so bad, the problem is my fiance and I have used condoms everytime weve had sex. (I know this is his baby, I havent been with someone else in over 5 years, and I know sperm doesnt live THAT long lol). Anyway, what I need help with is, how do I tell him im pregnant without causing a bunch of static? We had decided to wait at least a year (were getting married in July) before trying again since I had a miscarriage 5 months ago..
2006-11-19 02:35:20 · 8 answers · asked by that.one.girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The problem is I dont want him to think Ive been messing around bc I havent.
And no we were using condoms the last time I got pregnant, I was on birthcontrol pills.
2006-11-19 02:45:52 · update #1
Try this when you are alone.
Be seated...
Well honey...
All those who arent pregnant stand up...
remain seated...
If that is too subtle for him, then you are going to have to go to a back up plan. Preferably you will have lots of beer on hand for him. Also have a powerpoint slide presentation for him to be able to grasp this.
Seriously... Be honest and up front with him. Let him know that things happen (it did) and that you two are expecting your first child together. Good Luck and best wishes.
2006-11-19 02:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by JohnRingold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you already tested and had the double lines? Can you remember a time when you may have forgotten the condom or maybe put it on late in the act?
I would probably try to find an explanation before approaching him. He's going to want to know how it happened with condoms. Maybe it was caused by preejaculation... who knows. The point is, he should know. Tell him. Babies have a way of making an appearance whether we are ready or not. If you had already talked about having children, then it won't be so bad to tell him your child wants born now.
good luck. In the future, maybe pills would be better. But hey, children are a gift from God. It's scary but so wonderful to be pregnant.
2006-11-19 10:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations. If you're excited about it, he'll probably be excited about it. :)
If you want this baby, there isn't a problem. Just tell him that you don't want him to get excited or angry because of your history, but tell him that you are pregnant and cautiously optimistic.
I guess I'm a little confused as to what the problem is. The timing may not be great, but if you both want a baby, this is a good thing, right? After a miscarriage, it's very nerve wracking, but tell him and tell him that you want to be realistic about your pregnancy.
I really hope that helps. Not sure though.
2006-11-19 10:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him asap, so that he won;t think you waited too long and are hiding something, hopefully he won;t doubt the baby is his, because that could ruin your relationship, but if you've been honest and know you havent had sex with anyone else hopefully he'll understand that condoms aren't 100%effective, were yall using condoms 5months ago when you got pregnant ??
2006-11-19 10:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ignore the inane abortion comment above.
Just sit him down and tell him that condoms aren't 100% reliable and that obviously this baby was meant to be - the timing may not be perfect but hey, when is?
Congratulations!
2006-11-19 10:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Witchywoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condoms are not always a 100%, i would just come out and tell him.
2006-11-19 10:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and tell him, tell him you will even to dna tests once the child is born
2006-11-19 10:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain that you wernt really tryin this time and that it just happened!!! thats the truth! god wanted you to have your time nd thats now!
2006-11-19 10:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋