My sister recently broke up with her boyfriend of only 2 months. He was really disrespectful towards her, never showed any warmth towards her or her 19 month old son, he was a greedy and selfish pig literally as she has very little money and he makes £10 an hour, she paid for everything. he paid for nothing and showed no appreciation for anything she did. She had enough and told him to go but only 5 days have passed and she started to beg him to come back, he's doesnt care, he is humiliating her by watching her beg. I have asked why, she said because she's lonely. I've tried everything to help her, I cant leave her to get hurt again, she has been through such a bad time in the past 2 years and she's only 20. What can you suggest?
Thank you for all your help and advice in advance.
2006-11-19 02:18:43 · 24 answers · asked by Lizzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep tryin gal. she,ll eventually see him 4 the ba"$^&rd that he is.p.s you have my permission to chop his nads off!!
2006-11-19 05:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by nelster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your sister feels that she deserves this guy. The sad thing is that a 19 month old child will be dragged through this as well. Your sister should seek professional help so that she can come to realize that she is worth more and does have a right to be loved and hopefully not continue to repeat the same patterns over and over again. Abusive relationships are not healthly for your sister or her child. Encourage her to get help before someone gets hurt.
2006-11-19 10:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels vulnerable being with the baby on her own.. Sometimes the most awful company is better than none.!! You will just have to let her do her own thing and just be there when it all falls to pieces as I'm sure it will... She will realise maybe next week or next year this relationship is wrong for her... Its just a case of waiting... Let her go back and just be their to listen and support her. I know shes your sister but you sometimes have to let them make these mistakes ... And try not to say anything to the partner you will only be made out the baddie in all this.. (Been here many times) My sister has finally released after 5 years and has meet another person who is truly wonderful)...
2006-11-19 10:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could write a huge paragraph on this, but inevitably the main cause of the problem is your sisters very low self esteem. There are many types of personality in this world, but primarily these two unfortunately walk hand in hand. Your sister is the victim and her boyfriend is the abuser. Families have been to hell and back the world over watching loved ones take this horrible route, and no amount of persuasion will make your sister see sense until she identifies with the fact she has to work on herself to fix this problem. I hope she does, all the best.
2006-11-19 10:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find her a new boyfriend. Push this bum under a Lorrie. Your sister may also need some counceling to realize she is special and can exist as human on her own. She needs to be a positive influence for her son, not a whimpering mewling role model. Good luck to her and the baby.
2006-11-19 10:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its harsh but you can't interfere. I'm sure she knows really that he's a rotter. Best thing to do is be supportive unconditionally. Don't rant on about him or owt, you might alienate her. She's only 20, she'll get over him eventually. If you get too involved, no matter how well intentioned, nobody will thank you for it. People have to make their own mistakes in their own time.
2006-11-19 10:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant really do anything if she is in the phase of having him back over and over again then thats what she will do eventually she will see sence and get rid but for now all you can do is be there for her everytime she needs your support. Just wait she will have enough soon and she will find someone who is worthy of her but before she can do that she needs to have more pride thats something you can help her with good luck babes xx
2006-11-19 10:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your sister go to church? Believe it or not, this is a spiritual matter. This guy has ungodly spiritual soul ties over her. Women like your sister sometimes spend 20-30 years suffering over the same jerk. Get her to a good Holy Spirit filled church that teaches the Bible. Get her thoughts off of him. Can you move in with her for a while?
2006-11-19 10:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister must obviously love this guy or she wouldn't be wanting him back.There is also a child that is involved so your best bet is to be there for her when she needs you and always show your support.I no its so hard as my sister has had the same thing happen to her and it rips your heart out watching someone you love dearly get hurt.But she is a woman and she has to learn by her own mistakes.I feel for you and hope that what ever happens you stand by your sister what ever decision she makes.
2006-11-19 10:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Will she let you babysit so she can go out? Or find a sitter for the baby and take her out. Get her around other people so she has the opportunity to meet new friends. Church is a great resource. Good luck.
2006-11-19 10:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's only 20, then she has a whole life ahead of her. Try introducing her to some of your friends, or some of your friends' siblings. No one deserves to be humiliated this way, but ultimately, the decision has to be hers. Good luck!
2006-11-19 10:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋