i think its human nature, i dont think its based on security,,,,, finding a mate in past was based more on security, but that didnt involve love always,,
we humans are geared to love, for the most part, and we are geared to mate,,,,,, now that we dont really have economical reasons to influence our mating, we do it for love
also, we are sexual beings, and sex with love is much better, a totally different experience, then without
we all like to get our highs, no not with drugs, lest not all of us, and love is a very big high!
2006-11-19 02:06:32
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answered by dlin333 7
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I believe that half the people who want to fall in love is because of security. But there are so many other reasons than just than. Lonliness is one. The need to keep up a good standing in a social circle is another. Some have been in love before and they took from it a sense of belonging and care. I fell in love with my guy, because I remember what it was like the first time. I now feel total bliss. He comforts me, he cares for me, and he loves me with no restraints or pressures. This type of love has helped me to love like there is no tomorrow. I feel free, and happy and whole. But me case is just one in millions. Love is a great thing. I am happy, he is happy. and we share the happiness everyday.
I do agree though that yes some people do it for security. Not all of us are built with the willpower to just live life solo and enjoy it. Security can also be the same as having co dependence.
2006-11-19 04:04:19
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answered by Dorie 3
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I've fallen in love recently & it's the opposite of security! I've never felt more insecure & vulnerable! It's like walking around without a skin. I feel so raw, naked. It's so intense. It's scary. Why do I put myself through it? It's intoxicating. It's a rush. A rollercoaster. I feel so alive. It's like a drug. Falling in love actually floods you with endorphins. Very addictive. Got to have this feeling. That's why they write so many songs about it. It's the best thing going. And the worst...the agony, the ecstasy...
Security?! Are you kidding?!?! Security isn't when you fall in love, it's when you stay in love for years & start to take each other for granted. When you get accustomed to the companionship. Sometimes when the security sets in it actually feels like falling out of love. The thrill is gone. It's not new & exciting anymore...but real love can be secure & exciting. You just have to find the right person & then hold on even when the going gets rough...
Peace out.
:)
2006-11-19 02:06:55
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answered by amp 6
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We fall in love because we are looking for completeness, not security. This is why "opposites attract" -- because we instinctively look for someone who fulfills the parts of us that are lacking. For instance, someone who is quiet and not good at socializing most often finds someone who is a social butterfly and will help fill that role. Or the one who is easily angered or irritated seeks calmness in his or her mate. It's all a big balancing act. If they seem more alike on that from the outside, then there's something that doesn't show as much inside that helps each other be more complete in their togetherness than they are alone.
This is also why we feel so lost after breaking up or losing a mate. We are thrown off-balance and miss that part that we had temporarily found.
2006-11-19 02:15:54
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answered by voxxylady 3
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Security, eh?
Because they want each other independant of what happens later, independant of what the world thinks. It is actually an amazing lack of security where neither lover owns themself or the other-- a kind of abyssal understanding that can be quite fragile. Love conquers all! No, you will die face down with your lover, holding onto eternity for your unconditionality, but unpliant and dead just the same.
2006-11-19 10:22:05
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answered by -.- 4
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Like all human behavior, "love" is a result of millions of years of evolution. Animals, including humans, that "fall in love" are more likely to successfully reproduce and raise offspring. Over long periods of time, natural selection leads to individuals that "fall in love" and have sex and have babies. It's all in the genes (and the jeans).
2006-11-19 02:02:36
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answered by Jim 5
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You don't know?
Because sex is very pleasurable for both men and women. This pleasure has evolved to ensure that mating occurs and there are children born.
It gets more complex than that, of course. People do have other feelings than just intense pleasure. People are social animals and so have evolved a caring attitude about others that is independent of sex. And since women carry and give birth to the child and often raise the child, they have very different attutudes about love, needing a male who will be supportive as well as one who will pleasure them. They need the security. Men are less concerned about the security concerns of women because of their biological drive to mate as often and a widely as they can. That creates conflicts both between men and women they mate with but also competition between males for women. Women attempt to use that competition to their advantage but are rarely that successful.
We call it love, perhaps in attempt to deny our sexual natures and soften the harsher aspects of sex. And we tend to have romantic ideals that are an industry unto themselves.
2006-11-19 02:30:21
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answered by Alan Turing 5
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People fall in love because they have souls; and souls are connected together since they are part of GOD. Being in love means connecting souls together, since they were always connected into GOD. If you don't feel like you want to fall in love, that means either you don't have a soul or you are mentally ill.
2006-11-19 06:08:06
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answered by Anonymous
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2016-10-22 08:48:38
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answered by Anonymous
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No it is not love which has something fishy in it. Love is very sacred. If you love someone then you don't want anything from them. You want to give all the best things, that you have. Love is something, that is of giving nature.
2006-11-19 03:29:47
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answered by goodbye 6
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