I have a bullying problem?

Question

This kid whos 2 grades below me called me a no-c ock. Not only that, when I said how did he know, he said my mom told him. When I told the disciplinary, he said he was joking. Is this even bullying and is he gay? Either way I lose: If i kick his ***, i'll get suspended despite my clean record. If I let him push me around, I'll 4ever be known as a wuss and who knows if this continues during life. If I tell the disciplinary, (which I did) I don't even think he did ****. My parents don't give a **** either. I truly want to embarass him in front of everyone. Can I justify this by saying he instigated my rage?

Even better, I know where he llives, what his # is, and what his name is. Any suggestions..... ;)

B/c my parents don't care what happens to me at school, even if im bullied. I told them about bullies years ago and they just say solve ur own problems

Dotr, plz explain clearly, sounds like a plan though

Answer 1

You did the RIGHT thing. Even though you want to totally humilate and devistate this punk infront of your peers, how, really is that going to make you feel? All that is going to do is fuel the fire and keep an issue alive, that is better off left alone. Your patience is being tested right now, and you have to pull yourself out of the moment and become bigger then it. Because you are! Snide remarks made by spineless individuals are usually done out of feelings of insecurity of ones self. This will all blow over, and by your drawing negative attention to it will only consiminate what the 'bully' was hoping. To get a rise out of you! Don't let him have one bit of satisfaction by reacting to this. It's all about you, and not him. You have a decision to make, and you have control over this situation, not him. Justifying your actions by using the old, "an eye for an eye" saying, never leaves one feeling justified. Just vengeful and lowly. Please just focus on what is important and not on the comments of others. If all we did was base our lives on the comments of others, we would all be very unhappy individuals. Keep your head held high, focus on what is real and be true to yourself. Stay strong.

Answer 2

Ahhh the years of "peer pressure". The kid two grades below, is having to deal with little fish in big pond syndrome. He has to show his peers that he is not a wuss, and you were his chosen target. The big problem is, if you do beat him up, then you will be known as the guy who beats-up younger kids, along with getting suspended. I do realize that image is everything during the school years, and that with the wrong image, those years will be hell. An no matter how many people tell you that none of these people's opinions are going to matter in the least the day after you graduate, probably doesn't mean much when you are going through it.

It is not that your parents don't care, but there are some things that it is better that you let your kids work out on their own. Our first reaction is usually to protect our young. But, you know that the answer is not always "well punch his lights out".

Nothing justifies rage. Whenever you have to look for a reason to justify an action, then you already know it is the wrong thing to do, because the "right thing" will never require justification.

You could try to ignore him completely, as though he is silent and invisible. Everytime you respond to something he says, you feed into his game. You provide him with ammunition to throw back at you.

If he physically assaults you because you are ignoring him, a good hard punch to the solar-plexus usually takes the wind out of a wind-bag's sails. Witnesses who are not part of the "bully's" group of friends, will all indicate that he instigated the incident. You will both end up suspended, but he will be the one with the note on his school record for instigating a fight.

As long as he is with his "buddies", you will not come out on top of a verbal battle with him. His image is just as important to him as yours is to you. Making someone else look bad to make yourself look good has a way of coming back to bite you in the butt later. Besides, it is seen as bravado put on by someone with low self-esteem.

He is two grades below you, you could always try "Go away kid, you bother me." I think that would probably hit home best. You say it in a bored tone, and continue to talk to whoever you are with at the time as if he is of no consequence. It will have one of two effects, he will come up with some lame comeback, which you will totally ignore, because you had just dismissed him, or he will get in your face. You have the witness who you are talking to, who will be able to verify, that the bully started everything, and that you did nothing to instigate it.

Or, if at some point you and the bully are together when none of his buddies are there, you let him know that you are aware that image is important at school, but that he needs to go find another target, because you are getting pretty tired of his grade school bully act, and he doesn't want you to have to embarrass him in front of his friends he will cool it.

Good luck with the situation. And really, all of this school image bull is not going to matter one whit once you graduate. Very few of the people you deal with day in and day out now, will you even be in contact with once you finish up with high school.

Answer 3

They say your a girl because 1/2 your friends are girls right? Say "what you jealous cause all your friends are males sounds like YOU DA ********** to me!! You go suck---! Sorry but your lips are wrapped around (His best friend) ! Now when it comes to your MAMA! YOU walk up put your foot on top of his and if you are short enough come up under his chin with your head(2-3 times should do it and I mean hard too! When he goes down put your foot on his kahones and grab yours and say to him "I got your mama right here BOY! Now if ya do the last thing I said you will see everyone else back off cause "da bully went down"! I take it you are a non violent person. Well this trick works with the foot on his and if ya feel like it use your fist! Hand down low and from your inner most gut come straight up with an uppercut,first with whatever hand ya are and then the other one for a 1-2 punch! BINGO,down he go!!!!Son, let me tell ya what!!! To heck with the school rules 3 days suspension is a vacation and when ya go back you will have a whole new bunch of people that will show you RESPECT!!!!!!!! In America you stand and fight for what is right!!!!! YOU ARE AN AMERICAN!!!!! now if by some odd reason you should lose to him,tell "da bully" you come back tommorow same time cause the next time "you goin' down!!!! And fight him every day till you either wear him and his friends down or ya "KICK AS--!!!! No FEAR !!!! (confidentually when ya get hit your adrennalin is so high you will feel NO PAIN) Trust me!

Answer 4

This is definitely bullying, however bullying is not indicative of a person's sexuality. I would say it's indicative of his own insecurities -- he pumps himself up by tearing others down. The advice I've read to deal with bullies is to 1) not show that they're getting to you and 2) come up with replies that take the steam out of their insults. So, when he pulls this crap you could try saying: "Is that the best you can come up with?" or "Dude, I was using that insult in pre-school, don't you have anything better?" or something along those lines. Keep urging him on, it shows you're not afraid and he'll run out of imagination quickly. My personal favorite is to put your hands in your pockets, rock back on your heels a little and say "Aw, man -- and *I* thought I was COOL!" with a snide smile, roll your eyes and then walk away like you've got much more important things to do. (It can help if you practice this beforehand so it looks natural.)
As for embarrassing him in front of everyone, I feel it's risky. If it works perfectly, that's excellent. But if it fails . . . it violates rule no. 1 in a big way -- REALLY lets everyone know he's got you upset. My husband suggests saying "Let's get off mothers, 'cause I just got off yours!" but as a feminist, I can't condone referring to women that way. ;o)

Answer 5

I Am truely sorry he is a bully. HE is a trouble maker. DO GO TO THE PRINCIPAL.DOCument every thing.WRITE down dates and time. AND do go to some free legal advice. BECAUSE if the school continues to all ow this bully to attack you, you may have grounds to an attorney. DONT feel bad my parents could care less about me too. AND i turned out ok. AND my mother + i barely speak now.I wish you all the best. HANG in there . ANd feel free to contact me 4 support. HUGGS 0xx0xxo

Answer 6

Do not fight, this makes things way worse and u could get suspended or expelled, or arrested. Just ignore the kid. He seems really immature. He does this because he knows it hurts you, if you ignore him he will have no reason for it. If i were you, when he did it I would have said oh ya keep talking then walk away and I would say ya thats what I thought. It worked for me

Answer 7

seek advice from the principal. Tell him you may have to fix the problem physically if he doesn't change his ways. Put it in writing and send the letter to the school board. If you don't get a response from the principal ask to address the school board. They should bring a lot of pressure on the administration to correct this problem.

Answer 8

Well if you want to kick his *** then you should do it not on school grounds so you can't get in trouble for it and suspended. Or you guys should talk about it with an adult or your principal and see how that goes. If you need more advice just ask

Answer 9

He is younger and inferior. Tell him to cut it out I have a vaginia and you are trying to hit on a new guy. Say if you call me noc-ock he will think I don't put out. Make him believe u r gay and he is gonna ruin your reputation. Get your friends in on the laugh!

Answer 10

chill dude hears what u do travel with a group and don't pay no mind to him because if u kick his *** the u will be known as the bully he probity just need a role model. trust me i know