2006-11-19 01:38:14 · 15 answers · asked by vIdYa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1Cor13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
2006-11-19 02:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best of course is to love and have that love returned. The best is to fall in love with a friend with whom you have had a years long friendship and to have that friendship turn into love between two knowing and caring adults who know just about everything about each other already. You know the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly, and you love it all already...as happened to me after I swore I would never get married again.
My husband and I just celebrated our 15th anniversary and have been friends for 25 years. I'm the luckiest woman in the world.
2006-11-19 01:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by cmpbush 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real love is an unselfish thing, you love people in spite of their actions, so you question is almost an oxymoron. With real love there is no guarantee it will be returned to you so you can't exactly decide that you can pick a life partner from a group of people you love.
Love unselfishly, do acts of love with no expectation of love in return, then you will find yourself happy and unconcerned about the other things and that my friend is when love will find you. As long as your looking for love to fill your own needs, your creating barrriers to keep it from finding you. Fill your needs on your own, then love will show up unexpectedly and you won't need to second guess what to do.
2006-11-19 01:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being loved is the addictive substance here. It puts a person on cloud 9 even when everything else goes to crap. To love takes the bigger person. After all, it all hinges on what you bring to the party. In reference to a life partner, pick the one whom you won't mind pushing around in a wheelchair, cleaning up after when they are incapable of this themself, and being around 24/7 despite your own dreams and desires when they can't leave the house and require constant care. Why else say, "in sickness and in health, for better or worse, until death do we part."?
2006-11-19 04:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Okie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say - being loved is better. I am divorced, and the cause of that divorce was b/c I loed someone who didnt love me anymore. Now I am in a relationship where the person loves me. And I love them to very much. So can you choose both? -to love and be loved -that is better than either of the choices alone.
2006-11-19 01:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by DinaJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about the life partner issue.
But, it is great to love without any expectations of what you get in return. Its the best to provide unconditional love to people.
2006-11-19 01:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The More Loving One
Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.
Admirer as I think I am
Of stars that do not give a damn,
I cannot, now I see them, say
I missed one terribly all day.
Were all stars to disappear or die,
I should learn to look at an empty sky
And feel its total dark sublime,
Though this might take me a little time.
-- W. H. Auden
2006-11-19 01:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by waterlin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to love in order to be loved so both are equal as long as the other person does the same.
2006-11-19 01:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful to love and be loved.But to be inlove with someone is the best thing in the world-but to be in a one sided relationship is very hurtful,and can put a strain on your emotions.
2006-11-19 02:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a circle, you can't have one without the other. If you give love you get love. Whether or not it is your intended source of love, what you give to the universe comes back to you threefold.
Peace.
2006-11-19 01:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋