Why should I stay?

Question

My fiancee or should I say boyfriend has been together for 3 years and from the beginning our relationship has been built on lies and deception. Lies that I didnt find out about until a year later. Just recently I caught him in our bed in our house with another girl. He proposed of course I accepted because I do love him, I am so in love with this man when I think about him I want to praise him and kill him at the same time. But I dont know if this is the kind of love I need to be involved in, Its like I keep asking for punishment and keep accepting what ever he decides to give me. In all honesty the only reason I am still here is because of the love, but I am trying to muster up enough strength to stay. Why should I stay?

Answer 1

Why would you stay ?You can't possibly love some one who isn't loving you,that's not possible.If the person you want to love is not giving you love how the hell can you love what you're not getting?Please stop loving a false image of love and at least give real love to your self.Come on ,this the 21st. century,it's not financially necessary to bow down to a man who ain't worth your love.

Answer 2

My advise to you is to get out of this relationship because it is an unhealthy one and will continue to be that way. If you think your boyfriend will change once you're married you're wrong. Sometimes men don't change not even for their wives. I honestly don't see any good reason why you should stay. I mean, come on, he brought another woman into your bed!? What sense does that make? You staying with him is just saying that he can get away with anything and you won't leave him. Don't be fooled by love because it is blind. Follow your gut instinct. If you're feeling that you should leave him do so because God gave us the ability to know right from wrong. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

if the relationship is built on lies and deception why would you not have enough respect for yourself to leave?? can you trust him at all? i know I couldn't. sounds like he has no true love for you and definitely doesn't have any respect for either of you. get while the getting is good!! sounds like you are just wasting your time with him. there are more fish in the sea!!!

Answer 4

I personally think that you should leave him. Catching him in bed with another woman was enough of a reason for you to leave him in the first place. Leave him and find someone who make you feel and look good ......the total opposite of what you have now.

Answer 5

I personally don't see any reason to stay. The man cheated on you while you were engaged. It seems that this will happen while you are married.

You have to be able to picture your life with him 20 years from now. Will it be peaceful and happy?

Answer 6

Have some respect for yourself and dump this jerk. He is not being honest, truthfull, faithfull or loving. How can there be true love when he is in bed with other women. Time to wake up girlfriend!

Answer 7

kick his *** out and find a man

Answer 8

You should NOT stay!!!!!!!
Another woman in your bed, are you crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are thinking about staying, that is not love, you are dependent on him too much. You can make it on your own, you are not giving yourself enough credit.
Look at what you wrote to us and tell me if you have your answer!!!!!1

Answer 9

You shouldn't stay if you have to ask why.

Answer 10

When the in-love phase passes, you'll just be disgusted. If you have to ask the question, duh, leave!!!!