A close friend of mine and I have been talking sicne Aug. We've chatted into some really deep convos and have always told each other the truth. Straight out...... About our sexual experience, lifes, past friends / bf / gf and the normal getting to know each other questions. Hes been there for me in my time of need (which is alot if you have my parents') and I've been there for him.....
*little background*
When we go out people always ask us, if we are dating or how long we've been together.
We are truely naturally drawn to each other. I don't know why. But everyone asks us that when we are out together or at work.....
Now, I've been patient long enough and when asked him if we were ever going to date, he replied " I don't want to date you b/c I'm afraid I'll hurt you and I don't want to do that"
Okay. What the hell does that mean?
Second---- Why get mad at me when I'm out with other guys and won't tell you their names?
Did I do the right thing?
2006-11-19 01:09:58 · 9 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Ok, this is a confused guy. If he hangs with you and talks deep, then he really really likes you, and trusts you, which is important too.
He doesn't like you going out with other guys, ok that means he sees you as more than 'just a friend'. What you want to know is, how much more?
This is where he may be confused. He may be like Billy Crystal in the movie 'When Harry Met Sally' (iif you haven't seen that yet, GO SEE!) who thought you couldn't be both friends AND lovers with the same person.
Actually this is a common guy thing. We think that a really cool girl who we like lots and get on really well with, and talk about everything with, that if we went out with her, that might ruin everything and mess up a good friendship. Honestly, that is what some guys really think.
What you must remember is - he obviously likes you loads and loads. If he won't go out with you, stay his friend and then who knows, the scales may fall from his eyes one day and he sees you as the one thing he can't let go of.
The other thing to remember is, he may have been hurt by a girl in the past, and fears the same thing may happen with you. DON'T FORCE THE ISSUE. Don't walk away from him just because he won't date. Stick around, be watchful, ask him some questions about his relationships in the past, see what he says, if anything. Your friendship is the most important thing right now.
2006-11-19 01:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Phil Ossofer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm not clear on your post, but...I would suggest that you simply enjoy what he has to offer, & stop looking for more. Relationships require two people. Be grateful for what he IS offering you, & reciprocate.
On a side note, you may want to consider that qualities about him you are drawn to, & possibly work on developing those in yourself...as a way of increasing your self-esteem.
2006-11-19 02:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to define you dating parameters. Do you want to date this guy? yes. Does he want to date you? Probably: He may be waiting for you to 'grow into' a relationship with him.
Simple answer: Stop 'dating' other people and concentrate on him.
He may simply want a monogamous relationship.
OOOORRRRR (I'm afraid I'll hurt you) He may have a truly massive memeber and won't have sex with anybody.
2006-11-19 01:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by clic1_0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is afraid of being with you. Like your friendship is on the line if he dates you. As for the getting mad part if you go out he is jellious. He likes you but affraid of what would happen next.
2006-11-19 01:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by shesay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes you but he is unsure of himself.
In other words, he lacks self confidence. And he is concerned what about what will become of this friendship if things don't work out.
Makes sense, no?
2006-11-19 01:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Saffren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer sucks, but, it may be true.
He wants you as a friend.
He wants someone else as a lover.
Neither of you is gay(super or just regular).
He wants you, but, he thinks someone "better" may come along.
Date someone else
2006-11-19 01:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by TODSHISHLER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants 2 be freinds and he maybe jealouse of you when you go out with others
yes your doing the right thing give it more time you never know........
2006-11-19 01:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by secret_girl125 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's juz fencing you...but he's not totally decided yet if he's goin to cultivate the land
2006-11-19 01:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by xapao 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are both super gay.
2006-11-19 01:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋