Should I Wear A Condom ......With My Wife??

Question

My Wife And I Are Embroiled In A No Compromise Arguement. I Absolutely Insist On Wearing A Condom.....and She Absolutely Insists That I Do Not. I Told Her Do Not Take It Personally. No One Controls Biology So I Feel Its Better That We Both Be Safe Than Sorry. She's Far From A Virgin And I Learned Many STD's Stay Dormant For Up To 10 Years. Sure, She Checked Out Okay....For Now. But I Dont See Her Being Willing To Take Various Tests Every 6 Months (Although I, Myself Would Be Willing). I Am Willing To Divorce A Loved One If I Have To When It Comes To Securing My Health.

Answer 1

dont let your wife talk you into NOT wearing a condom. I have read the other answers to your questions and they talk about "trust". Trust wont save you when you get A.I.D.S. I had the same issue with a woman a few girlfriends back. i said to her , if she wants me to have sex with her without a condom, then i insist that she swallow my load each and every time. That lasted about 6 months until she told me to put the condom back on. Maybe you should tell your wife the same. After a few months of swallowing your *** a few times a day, she will change her tune.

Answer 2

I dont blame you for wanting to stay "clean". That is nobel. However, think about your wifes feelings. She wants you to trust her. That is what this is all about.. Trust. If you are worried, talk to your wife about the concerns that you just listed. See if she would be willing to go get tested.. BUT when will enough be enough? Are you still going to say that she needs to be tested in 15 years? You need to set a date, and tell her after that that you will be willing to go without a condom. I know that the possiblity of diseases are out there, but you married her. You know that ANY person that is NOT a virgin will have these same issues.. So think about it this way.. unless EVERY person that you had sex with before your wife was a VIRGIN... YOU have the same risk to her.. but she loves you and trusts you... The whole thing is a trust issue. I commend you for wanting to stay healthy, but with a few tests, I think nowdays you can rest assured that you will be fine.

Answer 3

When you marry someone, you are supposed to marry them thinking that the marriage will last the rest of your lives. Could you live the rest of your life the way you are now? Wondering if you're going to get an STD and making your wife get tested all the time, and not even being able to enjoy sex without feeling the need for a condom? That doesn't sound very exciting to me. I think you need to evaluate your relationship. And I wonder if I'm the only one that senses some resentment towards your wife about the number of partners she had before you...

Answer 4

I think you need to seek counseling. If she checks out clean and you check out clean - and neither of you are sleeping with anyone else - you are being paranoid.

If you insist on wearing a condom (which I don't think is necessarily a bad thing anyway) I would not be telling her it is for your protection!!! How do you think that makes her feel? You are basically calling her a w----! If this is the case why exactly did you marry her?! I could understand if you were wanting to protect her from getting pregnant or to keep her from taking birth control that could contribute toward breast cancer.

I think you should really consider the whole counseling thing . . . and maybe medication.

Answer 5

Why would you think that after your wife got tested for STD's that she would still have them? Do you think she is not being faithful to you? If she is using birth controls pills, you don't need the condom to prevent pregnancy. But you refusing to take the condom off is telling her that you don't trust her. If you trust her enough to believe her that she does not have an STD, you wouldn't insist on using a condom.

Answer 6

You really need to get your ego checked!
Your wife was willing to go through the STD test for you and she is checked ok. Why do you stil insist that she go through the test every six months? Are you marrying someone that you love and trust or you are marrying someone for safe sex? It shows you love yourself more than anyone else and you have absolutely no trust in your wife. I felt sad for your wife. I believe her love for you is much stronger than your so called love for her, that could be the reason one she is till putting up with your distrust and insults like tt. You are indirectly implying that she is flirting and sleeping around. You have definitely chosen her because you want to, you went through the vows etc... so why acting like that now?

Answer 7

Any wife would take your insistence on wearing a condom personally. It seems there may be a deeper issue for you such as the possibility of an underlying medical issue.
This issue could destroy your marriage so I suggest talking to a therapist.

Answer 8

Man, why did you get married if you dint think that your wife didnt have something that would not hurt you. It must not have been for love. Your a asshole. If the reasons you gave are the reasons you still wear one. Save her the trouble of throwing you out and divorce her and find a virgin, if you can. just hope she doesnt have the same problem with you becasue you were married before.

Answer 9

You're an idiot dude! Were you a virgin prior to marrying her or were you born that way (an idiot that is).

Unless you are trying to prevent pregnancy, why in the world would you tell your wife this. The only other possible reason would be if you thought she was having extra marital sex.

You better work that thang like she wants you to or you're going to be Waxing your Dolphin a whole lot dude!

Answer 10

If you think your wife is unfaithfull, thats not a person you need ot be sleeping with anyway. But at the same time i dont think you wearing a condom should be that big of a deal. I understand you and say tell her look i feel more comfortable using the condom, and if that bothers you that much we just dont need to have sex. But i would't get divorced over it. Talk to her and you two can probly meet in the middle.