Should Homosexuals be allowed to adopt?

Question

Should Homosexuals be allowed to adopt? i dunno, how about you. please state why you, many thanks james :)

Should Homosexuals be allowed to adopt? i dunno, How about you. Just to clarify I'm not gay myself its just interesting top see peoples opinions

Answer 1

Most definitely, they should. I've known/known of gay couples who have been together in loving, monogamous relationships for decades. They are better examples of how to having a loving, compassionate partnership, which is more than anyone can say for the majority of heterosexual couples (one look at the divorce rate will tell you this). There is absolutely no reason to say that heterosexual couples can offer a more stable, caring environment for a child, simply because they have sex with a member of the opposite sex. Ask the many, many anti-homosexual rights congressman with 4 or more marriages under their belts if stability and love are sure bets in hetero relationships. Seriously.

Also, there is no proof that a single gay man or woman cannot provide a loving home for a child which desperately needs one. Being the product of a single mother home, I can personally attest to the fact that it is in no way necessary to have a mother *and* father. If there is love, a child will thrive. And one could reason that homosexual parents would be best for this task, seeing as they treasure the opportunity to share love with each other, as well as children, more than your average heterosexual. It could also be argued that these couples will provide an extremely important testement to acceptance, and holding an open mind. Children cannot learn enough about this essential part of being a kind, loving, human being. If they don't learn this, they become the sort of people who go around websites like this one, condemming people they've never met, and know nothing about.

Still not sure? Ask the thousands upon thousands of children who await adoption around the country. I can promise you that no 7 year old child is going to say "No thank you, Gay people shouldn't adopt. I'll go ahead and remain an orphan."

Answer 2

I am a gay single parent, I brought my daughter up from the age of seven because her mother was not a fit parent.
She is now eighteen and training in the RAF.
She is a strong, beautiful young woman. She is well educated, emotionally stable and has a good relationship with my partner.
At school all her friends knew that I was gay, she 'never' got bullied or picked on because of it. She has never been in trouble with the police, didn't fail at school, have difficulty with relationships.
I did this myself, without a woman/mothers help. I can do the job just as well, if not better than a woman or staight couple. Why then should a child be denied what I do best if that's what I want to do...being a parent!
Just as a final note...
Quoting Catweazle:-
Homosexual pedophiles shouldnt.....
but i dont see why normal gay people shouldnt…


Just read what Catweazle has entered. Have a question for you.

If homosexual paedophiles shouldn’t be allowed to adopt, does that make it ok for heterosexual paedophiles? So long as they are 'normal', that is.

A paedophile is a paedophile whatever their sexual orientation. There are a far greater number of children abused by ‘straight’ males and females than by gay men. And yes women do commit sexual abuse on children!

Answer 3

Does the logic that children need mothers and fathers apply to single parents? If so, should single parents have their children reassigned to heterosexual-couple families, or have the relevant parent supplied by an adoption-style agency? Should heterosexual couples be prevented from breaking up, for the sake of providing both parenting roles for the child?

If the answer is no to those questions, then that reasoning starts to look like a bias. If it's true that children need or have a right to both parents, there social engineering to ensure that happens must be preferable.

The arguments are complex, and this kind of bias doesn't help. I personally believe that once the social idea of of a what a family is starts to encompass single parents, non-reproductive couples (straight or otherwise), and extended families etc, the question will start to become "why should this family be allowed to adopt" rather than "why should a gay couple be allowed to adopt"

Until that happens, there is a disadvantage to children in gay households proportional to the stigma attached to it. Further than that, I think the disadvantage it's down to whether the people who seek to adopt are good parenting material or not. In principle, I think that gay couples shouldn't be prevented from adopting (assuming a stable relationship etc), but I don't think there's anywhere where it's possible without disadvantage.

Answer 4

Tricky one - I think no at the moment and here's why...

I'm 18 years old and just out of school not long ago. I was open about my sexuality in school since I was sixteen.

At this age, I was able to leave home if my parents didn't like it and I was confident and mature enough to defend myself. Prior to this, people took the piss and joked about my sexuality. However, I was still considered "straight" but the other gay guys got bullied tremendously.

Anyway, when I meat people in bars and clubs they buy me drinks and apologise for taking the piss. I realise now that most of the people were not homophobic (which is what I thought at the time) but rather immature and ignorant. This, of course, is the way children are - it's nature.

I hope you can see where I'm going with this; many parents don't teach their children tolerance towards gay people therefore they they gain this as they mature. I am confident society is changing however...

Therefore, we would be sending kinds that have been robbed off their innocence into an environment to be known as the kid who's "parents left him and has two poofy dads..." I don't agree with this. If tolerance was taught at school my attitude may change.

I am sure gay couples would make tremendous parents; people think I'm my wee sister's dad when I take her out! My view isn't set in stone - it depends on how society raises our kids...

Answer 5

This is an interesting questions. A co worker and I were talking about this just the other day in an extensive conversation.

Just a quick background, both of us are in Law Enforcement.

She is a married mother of one, and is straight. She is a very intelligent woman who has a very level head on her shoulder.

Anyhow, let's get into the answer, shall we.

Per our conversation, we both agree that homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt, and both agree they would make wonderful parents, here is why.

How many times have you seen on television about a child who has been pulled out of an abusive home. Too many time. Too many time you read in the paper or see on t.v. where a parent has abused their child even to the point of killing them.

This happens on a day to day basis.

What does it matter who the parents are, and what they believe as long as they provide a child with a loving home, and can provide a better life for them then what they would have in the first place.

A home in our definiton is a place where they can feel LOVED, safe, and a place they will always hold in thier heart.

If two men, two women, or man or woman can provide this for a child, does anything else really matter.

We seem to think not. As long as there is a child in the home, and they are taken care of, nothing else should matter.

It is the mentality of this nation, and other nations who have tainted the thought that two men, or two women can raise a child.

Have you ever watched the Satellite station LOGO ? They have series about this topic as a matter of fact, and the stories are really heart warming.

Going back to the news, and not saying this can not or does not happen, but if it did, would you not think that the media would make a huge deal out of it? How many times in the news have you heard them say, A child was removed from a home today from abuse by a homosexual couple. I personally in my neck of the woods have yet to hear of this. Now, I am not that naive to know that it can not happen, and that it may have, but it is not as common or is very rare compared to the other.

I am in no way shape or fashion slandering and stating that heterosexuals can not do the job. Many parents across the nation do a very good job day to day providing and protecting our children.

But when it comes to the arguement, can homosexuals do the job, YES they can. Can they provide a safe and loving home for a child, YES they can.

Will they persuade the child to embrace homsexuality, which is a big concern. Depends on your defintion of embrace. I personally know a homosexual couple who has raised a child. The child is a very birght young man, atheletic, straight A student. His two dads in my opionion has raised the perfect gentlemen. They encourage him to date - and this kid has the ladies all over him. He is the perfect gentlemen, and I have to say this comes from his upbringing.

He understands the concepts of his two fathers, and loves them tremendoudly equally. As growing up, if he did not get the answer he wanted from one, he always went to the other.

This child, well young man let's say embraces the fact of homosexuality to the point he has been exposed to it by his parents, and is straight. He is not a biggot, or predjuice. I think this nulls everyone's fears that homosexual couples would raise their children to be gay. NOT ! You can not force someone to be what they are not, again re-inforcing the theory of genteics, versus learned or chosen behavior.

Answer 6

I want to answer this question but it hurts my head and my heart. The answer is a resounding YES. The question is nothing more than a back handed attack on homosexuals by forcing people to think there is something different about us.

I can not think of a justification for a 'No' answer that does not apply to all of humanity. The most common is not having both genders represented. That answer excludes all single parent families in the process. Excludes all single parent adoptions (forget sexual orientation) and forces the question 'Should divorce be allowed when there are children?'. I pains me to even consider the rest, so I won't.

Answer 7

I don't see why not, as long as they can offer a stable and loving environment. There are plenty psychological studies which show that as long as the child has an attachment figure who feeds, comforts and nurtures them it does not matter whether that person is the mother or indeed even female. And there are a lot of children out there who are much better off in loving homes than in institutions, so yes, I believe that homosexuals or homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt - through exactly the same processes as heterosexual couples.

Answer 8

I believe they should because at they end of they day there are hundreds of thousands of children needing love, support and kindness and through no fault off their own have ended up in children's homes or foster carers or even worse living in poverty on the street, all over the world!!!!. These kids need to grow up happy and secure and at the end of the day there are a lot of people who can offer that and loads more to help the child to have a fulfilled and rich life, The kids need love at the end of the day!! People shouldn't be so discimitative towards other people whatever their race, colour or sexuality!!!!

Answer 9

off course they should, i don't understand why people look at it as such a bad thing just because your gay does not make you a bad person, your not more likely to smack or abuse a child purely because you are in a same sex relationship are you,

my daughter is living with me and my partner she does not know we are together cause i feel she is too young but she is sooo much better off with me and my g/f rather than her dad who was a spiteful bully, she gets all the love she needs.

everyone gives same sex familys such a hard time, but surely we should care more about children who are in homes not getting the love and attention that children so desperatly need, rather than putting down people who are desperate to give a child a loving and secure home.

you are no more likey to become gay by living with a gay couple you are either gay or your not.

Answer 10

Yes, I see no reason why not. The only important thing in adoption is that the potential parents will love the child and give it a good home. That's all.