2006-11-19 00:31:17 · 25 answers · asked by Dad of Three 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to add some more detail (in responce to some of your answers)
my wife is proceeding with a divorce I didn't want. She refused my requests for marriage guidance. I have three kids all under 6 yrs old. I've met a lovely girl, who is great with my kids .... who makes me very happy. She has been getting a lot of 'advice' from her family that someone with such 'baggage' is best avoided and that I'm probably using her anyway (which is not the case). I want to demonstate to her (and her family) that I am commited .........
2006-11-19 01:42:34 · update #1
Of course not, wait until you're divorced and over with your first relationship before you get engaged.
2006-11-19 00:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 06:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I do not know how long your marriage lasted nor have long you have been separated, but reason #1 if you get engaged before divorced, you will at the very least make your ex very mad and then she could try to prolong the divorce. reason #2, your gf would be known, by a lot of people as the **** that broke up your marriage and people believe that if she would not honor your marriage to your wife, that she would be more likely not to honor her own marriage by cheating. reason #3 why bounce from a divorce to another marriage, if it is the real thing, it will stand the test of time, wait for at least 3 months after divorce before remarriage, you might find that you like the single life. .
2006-11-19 00:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you been having an affair with this woman? I definetly would not get engaged before you are divorced. Actually, after you have been divorced for a while, you will probably find that you do not want to get married for a long time. You probably think you are in love with this other woman, but you may just be find she may be as bad as living with your current wife. I don't know your situation, but the excitement and lust will wear off eventually, just like it did with your wife now. Your wife may be crazy or something though, but either way I wouldn't rush into a new marriage.
2006-11-19 00:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by gabby5 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends how long you've been separated, how long you've been with your potential fiancee, and how you'll all feel about it.
Are you getting engaged, with weddingplans being set (in which case, you don't really need to 'get engaged' as you'll actually be 'getting married') or are you getting engaged just for the sake of being more than 'just seeing each other'??
It depends what being engaged means to you. I don't see the point in it personally, but hey, I'm probably getting married for the 3rd time next year LOL
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Edit: having read your own update, I would say "NO!!!!!!!!". You shouldn't need to make a demonstrative gesture just to prove yourself. it doesn't matter what anyone else advises her, if SHE doesn't believe you then there's no sense in having this relationship anyway. If she does, then you don;t have to make what sounds like an empty gesture. Engagement for engagement's sake shouldn't be an option!
2006-11-19 00:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by spacebabe2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
5 in the hand is better than 5 in the bush, Don't be stuck in a relationship that you know it's not going to work, but get the divorce first so you can feel better about what your doing, if this other women loves you she will understand your reason why and will respect you more , she don't want to feel left out when you end up divorcing her too..
2006-11-19 01:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her. Tell her that you want to marry her but don't want to propose until the divorce comes through.
Make sure that you love this one though before you marry her because the kids will be devasted if they loose a second mum.
2006-11-19 02:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really in bad taste. Try to maintain some decorum. If she loves you she'll wait for the damn ring. Its not like you can get married till after the divorce is final.
Hope she doesn't cheat on you, that would just be too much like poetic justice.
2006-11-19 00:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bad idea.
1 - Until you're divorced you're technically still married
2- If you're trying to impress her family bigamy will not work
3 - If that's the main reason you're proposing then you're not ready to get married again.
Good luck.
2006-11-19 01:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure go ahead, although depending how nast your divorce is going to get it could very well be held against you in court.
2006-11-19 01:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋