Is it really better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all?

Question

The Pain is unbearable.

Answer 1

Sometimes it feels like you shouldn't have loved at all and never bair the pain and that life would be better. But we can't think that. If everyone thought like that everyone would try there best not to love anyone for that matter.

And at times it feels like we just got shot in the heart and blood is pouring everywhere. But time and maybe someone special shall come along and help you heal your wounds. It is better to have loved then never loved at all.

Sometimes we have to take a chance and hope all goes well. And if it doesn't, we can just grow stronger by healing our soul with the help of other people around us.

We should seek help when our hearts are broken by the people we love. And our friends,families,ect can help. Because we can't just stop and have a stand still. We have to keep on moveing on. Even if it is hard.

Answer 2

Yes it is--most definitely. It might not feel that way at first and the pain can be almost unbearable. I had my heart broken after being together ten years with my first love. It took a long time to heal, but looking back, I would not trade those ten years
for anything . In some sense , you never really do get over true love.

The way I see it, it is better to have spent a day as a lion than a lifetime as a gopher.

Answer 3

The wonderful thing about being human is that no matter how many times you have loved and lost, you can always love again.

The human heart has an amazing capacity for love and forgiveness. Unfortunately, the pain you feel now is an unfortunate side effect of how much you cared. Its so hurtful to know they didn't care as much.

Don't give up on love just yet. Allow yourself time to grieve for what you lost. Eventually, you will gain a new perspective, and you will be able to put it behind you.

I know the pain is unbearable now, but it won't always be that way. When we are hurt this badly by someone, it is easy to become bitter and spiteful. Don't let that happen to you. Love is worth it, and so are you.

Answer 4

Judging from your Avatar, you are in a great deal of pain. I can tell you from personal experience that it is much better to have loved and lost than never at all. Absolutely! 100%. Though you may not know it now, you have gained something from the lost relationship that you never would have known. It takes time to heal and you need to allow your self time to grieve your loss, much as you would if someone you love died. Eventually it does get better and you will look back and you will be a better person for having endured this pain. Purification by fire as it were but through pain there is healing. I wish you the best of luck and ask that you be patient as it takes time to heal. Good luck.

Answer 5

Hopefully time will heal the pain, and probably that means a whole lot of time. This wound is very deep. Sometimes I think it is true that it was better not to have loved than to have felt the unbearable pain.

Answer 6

I know that the pain of a broken heart is not one that can be cured or eased with over the counter medication. The only medicine for such a thing is time. As time progresses you will not forget about the person you were in love with, but you will slowly cease to think about them and the strong emotions that you having towards them will, too, slowly diminish. You will soon find yourself thinking less and less about them and looking toward the future. But no matter how much pain you go through because of a broken heart it is a pain worth going through.

Answer 7

It is because it means you were brave enough to take the risk of loving someone else and letting them know you loved them. I think "what ifs" when you don't take the risk are the only thing worse than when it doesn't work out. You have learned things about yourself you wouldn't have known without this experience. I have recently had something also not work out for me. I've decided the mistake wasn't letting someone into my life, I just chose the wrong guy. I've learned from that and know more who is deserving of being let in next time.

I know right now it hurts alot but in time it won't so much. I wish you good luck in getting over the hurt and a finding more deserving person to have in your life.

Answer 8

Yes, it is better because those who have not loved have missed something very important in their lives. The pain caused by love is usually greater than any other pain, but it is something most people have to go through and learn from. Choose with both your heart and your mind next time you fall in love.

Answer 9

I am assuming that you are a young man....and yes love can hurt. Even though it seems like the end of the world right now, it will get better. In regards to your question....it is absolutely better to have loved and lost....just think what a wonderful experience you would have missed. In time you will look back and wonder why you were so upset anyways. Keep your chin up!!!

Answer 10

Yes. Had you never felt the feelings love gives then you would never know how it feels to have someone care about you and that would be sad. The bad part is that loving and losing can cause one to be cold and unwilling to try again, but do and you will soon feel better. Good luck and be well.