i have found a text on her phone that sounds like she is having an affair
2006-11-18 22:43:23 · 25 answers · asked by Sliver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you could just be paranoid, but if you are sure she is ask her and see her reaction..good luck
2006-11-18 22:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by pammy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to trust. Why were you looking at the texts in her phone in the first place, in order to find this one.
If you were looking because you were suspicious, then the trust has been broken, and whether she is having an affair or not, that most important aspect of a relationship has gone.
You confront her with it, but would you believe her even if she said she hasn't been, as you seem to already feel that she has. And if she hasn't, she will be hurt to the bone.
Things will never be the same anyway - I'd call it a day if I were you.
2006-11-19 06:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by spacebabe2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a note of the number before you ask her.
then ask her about the text. tread carefully though.... is your relationship the sort where its ok to look at each others phones???
if not you could be heading for trouble....
what made you look in the first place?
have you suspected for a while i wonder ??
if you dont get a straight answer from her, you always have the option of calling the number.
good luck
i would have to say normally a gut feeling is right wouldnt you say...?
keep us updated!
2006-11-19 06:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the person who sent the text, asking him what he is thinking sneidng you women a text like that? then tell her that you have certain boundaries, whcih shoudl not b crossed one of them includes you getting wierd text messages. Though you reaize people can send any text thye like you woudl rather have your gf tell these people off for sending any such text.. Also add the point you are a real man and real men trust thier women completely, and as result you are trusting her but a lesser man would ahve suspected her by now...
So this way you have basically said all you need to say...s et you boundaries, and also informed her how lucky she is to have you in her life... :)
2006-11-19 06:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hire a Private Detective.
Women cheat different than men....they dont make it so obvious and they can take breaks that may think she is not.
One thing for sure, dont let her suspect what you think...SO DO NOT ASK HER! Really how many people tell the truth when they are living a lie? NONE.
If anything give her more space and time so she can slip and give you more proof....the more ignorant you seem the more obvious she will make it...the more you suspect and show it the more she will hide
2006-11-19 07:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you feel that your gf is cheating you, honestly, YOU DO ARE CHEATING YOURSELF!!! Love needs trust! If she's cheating you, first be sure of it then break up..move on! Even if she is not cheating...you have afterall almost ruined a relationship..was she not happy with you? Maybe she was dating only YOU but some other guy had a crush on her? Why the hell did you check her phone?
2006-11-19 06:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think one of her friends is bound to know if she is cheating on you. Ask one of them. And if they don't say you can allways tell buy their body language if they know she is having an affair.
2006-11-19 07:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch. don't jump to conclusions straight away man, but if you're really sure then when she goes out saying oh I'm just going to go see my friend or going for a run or something like that.....follow her. Or, preferably, if your not good at the whole following thing, look on her phone to see who she's been calling and ring back the number you don't recognise or that she's been calling a lot.
Just say, "hi, who's this?" find out the name then hang up!
2006-11-19 06:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if ur really worries den u should ask her ...but y r u looking at her txts in the first place?
the base of a realationship is trust if ur lookin at her fone bcoz u suspect something is going on then the base of this realationship has been broken already. if its really bugging u den just ask her but if she snaps back at u for looking dont take it wrong waii coz u were in da wrong to look first of all get me?... if shes sumone u cant trust then i dont think u should b with her u cood just b jumping to conclusions ofcourse so best thing to do is just ask and get it cleared up b4 u start jumping to conclusions and accussing her ....good luck xoxo
2006-11-19 07:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by bellas0124 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her straight. if you know her well enough you will know if she is telling the truth. You should never snoop though, cos if you don't trust her then the relationship is pretty dead in the water anyway. Good luck darlin.xxx
2006-11-19 07:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by punkydorieme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have got your facts right first, you could end up in a horrible mess.If you then believe the txt is dodgy i would just ask her straight out.Good luck.
2006-11-19 06:46:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋