what to do when you see that your relationship is almost over?

Question

Things between my gf and I have been going great for a while, eventhough there was some discussion and stuff, but after a while discussion about something important for both of us become increasing , and more and more, we are starting to see our differences and how big they are ...I still love her, but I'm consumed by doubts , and confused about knowing if I have to capitulate for what is important for me to save the relationship, but at the time, my feelings although strong , are stuck somewhere in the middle and can't grow because it makes me suffer ...besides, she seems to be still wanted that thing from me, but, appears at the same time, so distant and uninterested ...dunno what to do really, sometimes, you can be in a relationship and lose your direction in life, because you don't know what to do ...have any advices on that ..? has anyone ever experienced that ?

Answer 1

Why do you still love her if you feel like that? When it's over, it's over. You will know when.

Answer 2

It all comes down to one question. Are you happy in the here and now? Because if you're not, then you need to change that. Is your relationship making you happy or unhappy, and more importantantly, do you like who you are when you're with her? Is she good for you? Does she enrich your life, or bring it down? These are all vital questions that you need to ask yourself in as logical a manner as possible.
Bottom line, everybody's worried about letting the right one go, and even more so about starting over single again. Even I was, once upon a time. But being single allows you time to focus on just what you need, and when you're there, you're more likely to find someone that fits into your world instead of having to change for someone else. Honestly, the idea of soulmate is a dangerous notion, because it teaches us that we need someone else to complete us. We should be complete in life already, because if you don't love yourself and enjoy your own company, can you expect anyone else to feel good about you?
I know it's not a direct answer to your question, but it's the best anyone can do for you, as this is a decision only you are qualified to debate and to make. Best of luck, it's one of the most difficult you will make in your life.

Answer 3

You need to have a serious talk with her. You may need to take a break from each other for awhile. Whatever you decide, don't stay in a relationship that is not going anywhere.