Why do people think NOT spanking your child will lead to a better future for our country?

Question

Aren't our greatgrandparents, grandparents and parents obvious evidence that this is not true? Are they saying my parents were bad for spanking me when I was doing wrong as a child? I mean, I love and respect my parents immensely, just as my grown children still love and respect me for it. They still tend to thank me for it just like I used to thank my parents (before they passed)! Spanking is a natural parenting technique in all branches of my family. (this is taking into respect that these are spankings, and not beatings, beating is always wrong.).

And also I've noticed that females need far less, if any, disciplinary action. Males, on the other hand, tend to need it regularly. depending on genetics of course, some kids take it in the first time and understand while others require it regularly, and even some that don't need it at all. The requirement is different for each child, but for some there IS a requirement.

Answer 1

Because people are stupid!

Answer 2

Just because your parents spanked you, doesn't mean that you have to spank your child. But yes, there should be no legal rule that if you spank your child then he must be seperated from their parents. Parents do love their child and sometimes spanking does put a fear in the child not to repeat the same mistakes. These rules are made by the lawyers who didn't have any work and thought of gaining some money this way. Also I think that if something can be resolved just by telling a motivational/inspirational story to a child, most of the time there won't be a spanking required.

Answer 3

I agree with you and it makes me wonder where all these pansy "honey don't do that" people came into play. We denounce spanking to ensure our kids will grow up better, but we have crap like half a dozen school shootings in a month. We have 14 year olds getting pregnant because they don't respect anyone including themselves, have never been taught right and wrong, and don't even know how their bodies work, not to mention all that prime unsupervised after-school time before the parents return from work. We have children that same age and younger using and dealing drugs in our schools and on our streets. Some better future. And I'm not answering this through generations of separation. I only just turned 26. I was a senior in highschool when Littleton made the news. Where were those parents?

I was spanked. I was NOT beaten. I ALWAYS knew what I was being punished for. When I was a 14 year old latch-key kid, I knew who to respect, including myself. I made responsible decisions (I've never done drugs and was 17 when I lost my virginity in a bout of PROTECTED sex) and since I was strong enough in my convictions, the friends I had around me, even though they did these things (not the school shootings, but drugs and sex), respected me MORE and gave me LESS crap for sticking to my guns and not giving in.

We don't spank our children because we were spanked and our parents were spanked, etc. We spank our children because it's been proven effective.

Answer 4

A child doesnt need to be spanked to be disiplined. A swat on the hand or butt will do if its something real bad theyre doing.

I was spanked as a child and I believe my parents had that right, as long as I wasnt beaten. I grew up with morals and I have a great relationship with my parents.

I dont think that it will necessarily make the future better. It could go either way.

Answer 5

Spanking is necessary to reinforce the consequences of wrongful actions within our social law system. If you commit a crime you get punished. It's all the 4.0 honor students that don't understand this (The "God complex!" Nothing can touch them!!) and end up committing the most haynes crimes of all, white collar crimes! Look at Enron, lots of non-spanked, politically bound, 4.0's there don't you think? They destroyed how many lives? How many other people's dreams? Family financial stability? Did they care about anybody but themselves? And didn't George W. also do well in the schooling system? Sending our boys and girls to Iraq!! It's all the ignorant, non-disciplined 4.0's that don't see the realities of pain, suffering, and the blood spilled to make THEIR world go round, not by the choice of social rule, but that of human nature; right from wrong. No matter how we try, we are still just animals. Spank you kids when they're wrong, explain why they're getting punished and let them know, not "who's the boss", but it's learning a form of respect for others. Parenting isn't just about what is good for your kids, but also concidering the other kids on the playground!! I still thank my parents that they gave me the state of mind and intelligence to succeed, but also to respect all people around with an equality not seen without some form of formal punishment (moral values reinforced by discipline) when growing up. Oh yea, my parents disciplined me and my brothers and I currently live in Europe with a fantastic career in Fine Arts, and through my hard work and discipline met the Queen of Holland (I'm 34 years old!), my older brother (37 years old) was made a partner in a very well known old law firm, and my younger brother owns and runs his own website/server company (He is 31 years old!) My parents grew three young MEN, not foolish, ignorant, country running, 4.0 honor student children.

Answer 6

I totally agree with Cassanda on this one. I think spanking is just wrong-you are causing physical pain to someone that you supposedly love so much, how is that right? There are other ways of teaching your children right from wrong. I am a parent of 2 well behaved,intelligent and kind girls and I have never raised my hand to strike them for doing something wrong, how would you like to be smacked when you did something wrong? See what I mean. In many cases spankings lead to beatings, because you are hitting out of anger. I really wish people would be kinder to their children and listen instead of hitting. I know I will get some thumbs down on this one but, that is alright.

Answer 7

My two sons, 9 and almost 14, have never been hit and are the most polite, most helpful, most gentle, most respectful boys I've ever seen.

87% of americans hit and we have the problems we do. It's not from lack of hitting. Spanking is not natural - american indians were shocked and appalled when they saw the early settlers treat children that way.

our problems come from the fact that many kids are getting separated from mommy in the first three years of life. research shows this causes aggression and detachment from family.


hitting actually doesn't work. you were good in spite of the spankings, as were the previous generations, as are many kids today.

spanking lowers the iq, creates aggression, and causes children to HIDE not change their behavior. all in all, spanking is a stupid idea.

Answer 8

The evidence you speak of is nothing more than anecdotal evidence. In psychological studies, it has been found that children who are spanked are far more likely to fear their parents than they are to respect them, and they are far more likely to have a violent nature later in life.

I think parents who spank do it because they lack patience and creativity to do behavior modification in children in a more effective and loving way. Spanking is effective at making children stop whatever they are doing that is perceived as being wrong, but it teaches poor lessons that hitting is OK if someone has wronged you, and that violence is a good way to retaliate against bad behavior.

Answer 9

i think the theory goes if a child perceives that their parents use of violence, (spanking), as a solution to problems they will use violence themselves. this is a flawed and, as far as i know, untested theory. much like the theory that you should never criticise a child's failings or emphasise their mistakes, you must only praise and encourage them. as far as i can see this has produced a generation of people who often fall at the first fence, who take the easy way out and expect everything served on a plate. we have produced a generation of unthinking know nothings, so uncreative all they can do is recycle ideas from the past and operate consumer electronics. sorry, i held these theories to be true once and brought my daughters up this way. i now find myself telling them to go out and rebel, do something new, stop listening to music which sounds like the music of my youth. young people should try to make the world anew shouldn't they?. not now they're just corporate consumer clones.

Answer 10

<>I have to laugh when I see questions on here from parents saying they have absolutely no control over their 6, 7, and 8 year-olds. The "time-outs" aren't working and neither are the "words of encouragement." I can't wait to hear what they say when the kid is 15 and putting a knife to their throat! You are right...it worked for us, our parents, our grandparents...and on back. Maybe they'll learn before their kids throw them down the stairs because they didn't get their own way.

Answer 11

If we look at crime statistics of today versus 30-50 years ago, who is committing violent crime? It isn't those of us who were spanked as children, it is those of you who were raised with time outs and numerous "that isn't nice, don't do that" punishments. It isn't our children who are committing school shootings, it is yours.

I don't remember one spanking my parents gave me; however I know I got them, but since I don't remember it must not have been so traumatic as you would have us believe.

Just FYI, spanking is still legal. Hopefully, parents will come to realize it is necessary before those kids who were raised with no discipline kill us all.