I had a fight the other day with my parents. We were discussing the issue that they never listen when I am upset with them. The conversation went on and my mom wanted to make an example about something that had to do with my boyfriend and I sleeping in the same bed with each other. Now, I am 20 years old and my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years. My parents have an issue with me sleeping next to him in bed. They know we are having sex with each other and they know that we are planning on getting married in another couple of years. Am I crazy to think that they have no right to tell me what to do about this? They let us have the house to ourselves when they go on vacation and when I went on vacation with him this past summer, they knew we were sharing the same bed. They only seem to have a problem with it when there's a way for them to try and prevent it such as us sleeping together when they're home or when I'm over his house. What should I do about this?
2006-11-18 19:48:23 · 10 answers · asked by Brig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents do not want you sleeping with your boyfriend in THEIR house? I would say it is a matter of respect for them that you don't.
It also sounds like you still live with them, which means they DO have some say over how you live your life as it ultimately could affect them. Sorry, but it sounds like you have no respect for your mom, especially since you say they don't listen, yet you also say the conversation went on and on. Sounds like listening but not agreeing to me. Sorry.
You could always get a room, but again that would be disrespectful as you are going against their wishes and if you get PG it DOES affect them since you live with them....you will get this in about 15 years, good luck!
2006-11-19 03:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the military at 20 and my parents had no say in what I did at that point. If this really bothers you then you might want to look into moving into your own place. In a situation like that if your parents are old school or have moral values and you are in their house then you really need to respect their rules. Or like I said get your own place.
2006-11-19 03:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by heartache 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, stop putting yourself in situations where your parents have some say in the matter. Like its in their home. Because they have a right to intefere if its happening under their roof, even if you are 20 years old, its their home. However if its happening at someone elses home tell them in no short order to butt out. Its none of their business.
You both need to get your own place together, it doesnt matter what they say then, and if they do, tell them your private life is none of their business, you are over 18 and they need to butt out.
2006-11-19 03:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably wanted you to be officially married before having intercourse. They may be trying to cope with the fact that you are sexual active.
Also, from what it sounds like, you are under their roof. So really, they do have the say in their house. Am surprised they even let the boyfriend sleep with you. My parents would have not allowed that unless I'm married.
2006-11-19 03:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out of there house.By living with them and having the nerve to sleep with your boyfriend under there roof is totally disrespectful.You can have all the rights you want when you move and get your own.
2006-11-19 03:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait....ya'll are sleeping together in THEIR house. I see a problem. Your in your parent's house. Their rules. Get it? Move out then you can break their rules. Learned this rule the hard way. Parent's house=parent's rules. Your own house=Your own rules.Get it yet?
2006-11-19 03:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla [(Adam)] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to the fact that you are an ADULT! Time to give mommy your pacifier and pampers back, you shouldn't be needing them any more! It's good to respect your parents, but they have to give up control, and let you go your own way!
2006-11-19 03:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you living at home with your parents?...if you are then you need to respect their wishes...if your not living at home then I dont understand what their problem may be.
2006-11-19 03:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by spidercents123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-19 03:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋