would be offened if you said to your boyfriend or girlfriend oh its too bad we can't spend thanksgiving together...and then he said..."yeah I know,but thanksgiving is for family."
2006-11-18 19:36:08 · 25 answers · asked by thereis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on how close the couple is...I would take it to the heart in my case but that is because my boyfriend and I consider each other family and his family is my family and my family is his family...the point is, we are all very close so yeah, if he said that it would hurt me. We are having 2 thanksgivings this year, we are not cooking at our house but my side of the family is having turkey dinner around 4 or 5 and his side of the family is having it around 8...so we are going to starve all day and eat at both families houses. A little off the subject but all the talk of thanksgiving got me thinking about it, sorry.
2006-11-18 19:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would depend on the age of the people, the stage of the relationship and a whole lot of other considerations - like where you both live.
If you are teenagers, then no, both of you should be spending it with your families.
He can call you during the day, you can see each other on the weekend.
If you are older, say in your twenties, and looking at getting married in the long term, then one way to do it is lunch with one family and dinner with another.
But really, how often do you spend time with your families? You probably see each other a lot - this is a day when you can both give some time to your respective families.
2006-11-19 03:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because thanksgiving is for family but they can still have companies meaning they can invite people over thanksgiving is not about family it s about the food.
2006-11-19 03:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be offended, I would want to spend Thanksgiving with someone that I love.
2006-11-19 03:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by tracey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, not unless we'd been going out for a very long time and had talked about commitment. A lot of people really don't take TG too seriously - it's just an obligation to hang out with the relatives to a lot of people.
If you've talked about commitment, it's kind of foolish for your SO to blurt out the implication that you're not "family" - but I think I'd give him/her the benefit of the doubt, and take it as data pointing to the conclusion: this SO has never thought very deeply or seriously about commitment.
2006-11-19 03:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think should be okay lah. As thanksgiving is for family then let them had their thanksgiving. Any way if you are marry then you should spend it with your's in-law.
2006-11-19 04:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by chawcs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unconclusive based on just that remark from your boyfriend. He could have said it because his family is very defensive about their privacy and he hasn't known you for very long. Or he could be uncertain if you are truly the girl he wants to bring home to. Or he feels edgy about his family disclosing too much information about him to you. Don't get angry over this isolated incident. If you feel further 'mistreatment' from him, then do something about it.
2006-11-19 09:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's nothing to be offended by, but it shows that the person who said that obviously isn't ready for a big commitment. if somebody is ready to commit, he or she will argue on whose parents will be visited for the Thanksgiving dinner this year... together.
2006-11-19 03:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by girliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... yeah! I would be so pissed off I probably wouldn't invite him for Christmas. However, it all depends on how long you've been together and how far away the get together is. Good luck, put him in his place!
2006-11-19 03:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, under 18? If so, don't be offended, you are still living at your parents' home.
If you are 35, yes, then be offended, probably drop any idea of it being a real relationship.
2006-11-19 03:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋