can you love after losing love?

Question

i had a very broken relationship with my ex that involved him cheating on me and emotionally i don't know how to connect back to guys i don't feel the need to be in a relationship and i'm only 18 and very much a romantic i loved being loved but now i hate being loved i push everyone away and would rather much be alone although i'm over my ex i still find myself hurting over what happened??i would like to open my heart again but i don't know how??do you love again after thinking you never will???i'm not whining i'm just curious to know if anyone has every felt the way i have about losing love?

Answer 1

i have .. all you can do is wait... time is the greatest healer

Answer 2

I've been in a similar bind recently and it's really good to hear it from someone else. I think sometimes when we have every reason to believe a person entered our life for a reason, and the end of our term with them left us with unresolved issues and cards we still hadn't played- it's really hard to let go. Sometimes I think it would be more soothing to receive a definite "No, this person will never circle back into your life, as you want them to" than to have the possibility lingering about in my head. I think my sentimental side truly resents the possibility of letting go. It just seems to betray what once was. The notion of permanently casting this person out from my life gives me a completely counter-productive separation anxiety. And I think when a part of our spirit's development has been aided by someone, to cut strings with that person is to cut strings with an endearing part of our own soul. I'm wondering if this heightened internal chaos is a part of the year wrapping things up. As the planets shift new frontiers present themselves, but I'm not sure I'm ready for the change.

Answer 3

time will heal, sweetie.

sometimes you don't have to open your heart to somebody. that somebody might open it up for you. i went through a huge heartache about three years ago, and thought that i -not just won't be able to love again- won't be able to live again. but i survived, and am now in a very loving relationship that is actually going somewhere. there's no such thing as being too old or too young to love and be loved.

it's ok to stay in your coccoon right now because nobody can make you go out if you don't want to. but believe me, there is somebody out there who deserves your love and will love you back greatly. he might be miles away or just around the corner, you never know.

trust me, i've been in your place and "impossible" doesn't apply. remember, what didn't kill you will only make you stronger.

good luck and hang in there :)

Answer 4

Yes, you can love after losing love. The key is to take time out for yourself. Don't rush into another relationship. Don't think that all men are the same. You're pretty young, but in time you'll find someone that you'll be madly in love with. But again, don't rush it. In time it will happen. Think about this: "It's better to love and lost than to have never loved at all."

Answer 5

you are so young! you have to except the fact that your heart could be crushed another 20 times before you find the right guy. ofcoarse you can love again. it just takes time. and i know you say that you are over your guy, but i know you arent. you wouldnt be asking this question if you were. just take it slow, put on some coldplay and read a book. i leave you with a quote my dear friend.: life is knowing the best is yet to come, and the worst is far from over. you'll get through.

Answer 6

That is the hardest thing to go through...I feel for you and I have went through this myself.You feel like you on withdrawal from some drug after you lose someone you loved.But with TIME(you have to take time in between relationships)it gets easier...trust me.You re still young and you might have to go through this a couple more times before you find"HIM'',but you will look back and know that going through heartache actually makes you a stronger person once you conquer it.I wish you all the best in luck....you'll make it.All us before you have.

Answer 7

Gee. 18. youve only just begun! There will be many lovers before you find that special one, and even if you lose that one, believe me, you can love again., you just have to remember, every time you fall in love it will be different. Fantastic, wonderful, but different. Each person brings his/her self into the relationship, and all feelings will be different too.You would have heard of the word 'soulmate'., well you only get to experience that relationship once in your lifetime, but many others can be fulfilling and nearly, (but not quite) as good.,Trust in each other is essential. Good luck

Answer 8

u need more time to get over the bad incident, as well as to stabilise your emotions. of cos many have felt that way before (: u're not alone. you don't have to force open your heart now. your heart will automatically open when the right one reappears. cos your heart always knows what and when is the best. take care ;) u'll meet your loved one one day

Answer 9

you cannot love because you choose not to be. like almost everything else, love is something you have to risk. your heart may break, and you think that you may never love again, but that is your own choice. i know what you're going through. besides, your only 18, it is much too early to give up on love.

Answer 10

Yes, you can still love another. If he is not loyal to you then you should leave him. You can love another one if you are ready but as of now I think you're not ready to be in a relationship.

Answer 11

Remember that time is money. If I were you, I would begin finding a new lovee.