so there is a girl i like, who says she has some feelings/attraction towards me, but that there is a guy she has known longer and therefore her feelings for him are strong. also, i am graduating and moving away in 4 weeks. she said that i gave her so much belief in herself that she decided to tell the guy she liked him. he didn't say if he likes her or not but she says he has done nothing to indicate it. so i don't know what to do. part of me wants to tell her that she is special to me and we could make the long distance thing work. she admits that she has feelings for me and would be with me but for the long distance thing. another part of me thinks i need to encourage her to be with him, because that could make her happy and above anything, i place her happiness because she has done a lot for me emotionally. another part of me wants to just ask her to be with me while i'm here so we can share a deeper connection. so what should i do- fight for her or be her friend?
2006-11-18 18:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-18 18:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a mighty tough situation, but I shall help!!! I don't think that I would encourage her to go for the other guy, b/c if it were to mess up, I'd feel bad. And I don't think I'd date her b/c long distance relationships are very complicated, and for 4 weeks, is not really a relationship before moving. Also, do you see potential in your relationship....a couple rings or what not? If you think you'd really want to be with this person, tell her that and she what she has to say. I would definitely keep in touch, and if your only going to be gone for school, then maybe keeping a girl friend/ boy friend relation ship would not be that bad, but it will be different when you come back, this I will worn you of. But mind you, if you two will not be dating long distant, then she might find someone else, or that other dude. So with all that said, I would talk it over with her, and the best time that I could think of that i'd bring this up would be sometime when 'just' the two of you are together either on a couch or sharing a chair. What to open with is the hard part thou, I suppose just get a couple of ideas going and then try one. Hope I was of help.
p.s. As I noted earlier, long d-relationships are hard to maintain just b/c no physical-ness between the two of you. I have never had a girl friend, and I would have liked to at many times with a couple girls I could have gone out with, but my mom moved a lot so I never really had the chance. So what I did, is made the special girl a best friend of mine, and keep it at that. It has been hard even before I found out again before I was going to move, but that way at least you can be good friends. And chances are you both with meet new people, and it will be hard.
2006-11-18 19:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by steven marton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance...and a struggle to win her over? doesnt sound like a strong enough foundation to maintain. Long distance is dang near impossible even for couples who are madly in love.
move on and look forward to all the new interesting ladies you'll meet in your new town.
2006-11-18 18:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by jezabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Hell NO!! i imagine thats incorrect...why does faith ought to do with searching after ur body? adult adult males could not shave then? good? I mean, its an similar ingredient..i imagine you should shave and also you may want to look a lot more effective and also you may experience more effective and extra confortable with your self. i learn about that faith. in case you want information purely question me.
2016-11-29 06:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by gnegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try fighting for her? Even if she has decided whoever she wants to be with, at least you won't have to regret anything and still have that "What ifs"... right?
At least you know deep down inside of you, you tried to make her happy.
Good luck!
2006-11-18 18:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Emz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already in love with her, and so you can not just be her friend. I would say tell her how you feel.
2006-11-18 18:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must not do anything before I get readyfor it.
2006-11-18 18:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Konfuzius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her chose.
2006-11-18 18:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by creekgirl14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋