im gonna try again...my girl friend took some very very personal pictires of us out of the computer and swowed them to some of her friends without my knowing and they invited us to a ALTERNATIVE COUPLES PARTY...she wants us to go and i think i wouldnt mind but why after 14 years did she decide to do it know and what should i expect ..fun or fear
2006-11-18 18:41:55 · 16 answers · asked by acierman2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 39 she is 36
2006-11-18 18:58:12 · update #1
we are quite open to new things but this freaks me out
2006-11-18 19:00:05 · update #2
i bet she wouldnt like it if i would put one of her on the net
2006-11-18 19:04:32 · update #3
It depends on if the women are going to be there with whips, chains, and canes.
My guess is you have something going for you that a lot of blokes don't.
So a little fear, a little fun would make sense at this stage.
P.S. One need not be 21 to legally consent in the UK, and Colonies of the Crown, and some of the United States.
2006-11-18 19:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm... because maybe after 14 yrs she wants to spice somethings up. It's only been 4 yrs with me and my husband and I have toyed with the idea a little bit. I wouldn't worry about your relationship if thats what you mean .. if anything I have thought about it because I think my husband would enjoy it and he has never cheated on me or anything and it seems like a nice thing I don't know.. that really depends on your relationship. If you guys are close I would not worry BUT if you guys are growing apart I think I would worry a little.
2006-11-18 18:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
At least you know why she showed them to some one else! They have discussed this already. Now, you need to sit with her and find out why she wants to, and what SHE expects to get out of this. Do not get trapped into telling her what you would like to get out of it. You want to know if you should take this as fun or fear before committing to anything. This is dangerous territory!
2006-11-18 18:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dante_of_Phoenix 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think like her then expect fun. But if dislike this idea, then you have a problem with her.
Dont lie to yourself, know what you really feel about it. If its not good to you, you need to talk with your girl.
She is definitely an extreme. This you didnt see before and obviously has taken you by surprise.
It all depends on how you feel about everything.
2006-11-18 18:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds bored. Why would you have VERY PERSONAL pictures on your computer to begin with? You need to talk.
This can be a disaster... or the best thing ever....
Don't be afraid.
After 14 years, things have really changed in your relationship.
Come on, you have been boyfriend, girlfriend that long?
2006-11-18 18:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FUN
You will be meeting other women and having some extra fun...
FEAR
Your wife will be consumed by others
Your wife may find others better than you..Will she leave you? Any risk?
Risk of getting infected eg. Aids
2006-11-18 18:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by the.buster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you're into swinging i guess it would probably be fun to you. But if you haven't indulged in it before then it might be scary because your girlfriend might like what she's getting there better and that's got to be one of your biggest fears.
2006-11-18 18:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should expect it to be fun.
The only reason why I think she does it without letting you know about it because she wants to make it as a suprise for you and she wants something different for the herself as well as the relationship between you two.
2006-11-18 18:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by James 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go with an open mind. Ya either will enjoy it or not. I think it's better to know then to wonder what could've happened. She may be just wanting to try something new with you.
2006-11-18 18:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Finalsay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Usually it is the guy who takes the initiative to spice up the sex life, sounds to me like your pretty lucky to have a woman like that. I'd "go with the flow" and see where it leads!!
Have fun! : )
2006-11-18 18:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by ewr750 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋