I worked 10 hours or so one day last week. It was the grand opening of a new store, so my coworkers and I had celebrated by drinking champagne afterwards. Needless to say, I was exhausted by the time I got on the train to go home. I sat in the double seats that faced sideways and propped my foot up on the seats in front of me. A few stops later, a man got on the train and sat in the seats in front of me and plopped his briefcase down as if my foot was't there. (the briefcase was leaning on my foot.)
This was not the last seat. There were plenty of empty seats available, and I mean that one end of the train was completely empty. I aggressivly kicked his briefcase to move it off my foot. I continued writing in my journal, and out of the corner of my eye, I could see him glaring at me. He got up and moved a couple of stops later. Was I wrong for doing this?
2006-11-18 18:19:31 · 15 answers · asked by emmeaki 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is no way in hell that this man didn't see my foot because the train was practically empty.
Also, when the the train started to fill up, I did move my foot.
2006-11-18 19:40:40 · update #1
Taking into concideration that there were plenty of other seats available on the trip, I say Hello No, I hope ya dinted the rude bast*rds suitcase. He needs to recognise a relaxed lady when he sees one!! When we are relaxing we dont want to be disturbed!!! Derrrrrrrrrr!!!!
He probably thought he was all that and a bag of potato chips when he strides upon the subway in his suit carrying his suitcase! I hate people like that!! Dont worry hon, he had an attitude problem!!
2006-11-18 19:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 6⤋
You were both trying to occupy two seats for one person. You both have no foundation to base your claim you were in the right and in fact, I would tend to say that shoes up on the seat is a far worse social faux-pas than using a seat to put a briefcase on. They don't scrub those seats very often if at all you know.
2006-11-26 08:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by wreck_beach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it very well. I probably would have said a couple of things to him after kicking the briefcase from my foot. I think that he was very rude. If he needed the space then "excuse me" would have been the correct word.
2006-11-19 00:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered that maybe that man didn't realize he had set his briefcase on your foot? You overreacted- instead of being as rude as you were being, you could have politely asked him to remove his briefcase. No wonder that man was offended.
2006-11-18 19:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a general rule of etiquette , you may never put your feet up on a seat , whether the train is empty or not ;out of respect for others who will sit at that spot later on ......
you were out of etiquette .sorry .........((
he probably did see your foot on the seat and was rudely trying to get you to move your foot of the seat .(to give you a message of traveling etiquette ) ?
2006-11-18 20:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by HJW 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think you were wrong. You should have gained position so you were both out of each others way. So you were tired, you could have moved just as easily. Expectations of how "others" should act are what causes people so many difficulties.
2006-11-18 22:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES. Maybe you could have been polite and said "Excuse me, your case is on my foot, do you mind if I move it a tad, or would you mind moving it for me? Kicking his case was just as rude, and responding to rudeness with more rudeness is not only immature, but it solves nothing
2006-11-18 18:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
communicate up. to now no longer the guy in front of you, yet to the guy interior the back of the counter. Say you think of of that is rude to bypass on jointly as they have not finished serving you yet. in optimal circumstances, "the shopper is often precise" and you get your provider. If the worker argues with you, say "precise i could desire to repeatedly end coming here", or tell them you would be desirous to talk to their supervisor/proprietor. I have confidence you. they're too busy attempting to get a hundred subjects finished, that they finally finally end up making the shopper wait longer. i'm waiting to declare this as a results of very fact I particularly have been on the two factors of the counter. i think of of it fairly is significant the corporate that the shoppers are happy, and that's significant to the shoppers that they are being served precise. that is as much as you to talk up! that is now no longer rude in case you communicate with politeness and firmly. reliable fulfillment!
2016-12-30 15:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by nourse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw that dude he knew he was putting his stupid briefcase on your foot.The train was empty he could have waddle his @ss somewhere else to other seat.But,no he had to plop down your foot.If a train is empty and there are plenty of seats I wouldn't be a @ss and put my bag on a persons foot.He knew you were probably tired and exhausted you were relaxing there were many seats for him to take.Ha,he deserve it no you weren't wrong he was obviously a jerk.
2006-11-19 03:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes and no....I for one would have moved my feet instead or asked him to moved his breifcase please. I do understand what overworked is I work 60 hours a week min between 2 jobs so I know what stress is. I think you were under stress about wanting to get home soon
2006-11-18 18:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw that, he knew where he was putting his brief case when he sat down. He could have either went to another seat from the start, or asked you to move your foot.
2006-11-18 19:12:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋