Initially when I met him, it was clear that he was attracted to me but I wasn't interested because of the age difference - He's 24, I'm 28 and we're both in the same graduate program. When we slept together, I regretted it and wanted us to stop being friends. He says he wants to be with me. I let him know I was dating around. I asked him if he was seeing anyone else and he said no. He's been upfront about his past relationships in telling me how girls were always acting 'crazy' over him.
Later he switched and started saying that he's not ready for a relationship and wants us to remain friends. I told him that either we're together or we're not friends and walked away from him. Afterwards, I felt bad which is surprising because normally I don't care about those things. So I decided to give friendship a try. A few days later, he's begging me for “one last kiss.” -------------->
2006-11-18 18:04:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The next day, I saw him walking around campus at 7 a.m. with some girl which is cool because he and I are just friends, right? But when he sees me, he literally runs into the nearest building. I acted like I didn't see anything. An hour later, he's e-mailing/calling me off the hook to apologize. Suddenly it makes sense to me why girls are always 'acting crazy' over him. Judging from what I witnessed, I can see how that would happen, especially if the woman is immature or emotionally unstable.
A week later, we took a pregnancy test, which was negative. He says to call him when I get my period. I asked him why couldn't he call me? Then he launches into this tirade about how I always make things more difficult than they need to be. Then he tells me to stay the f--- out his life.
Three weeks later, he calls to apologize to me. I accepted it and we're right back to having sex again. My friend says I should just admit that I like him but I don’t know. ------->
2006-11-18 18:04:37 · update #1
In between our little break, he started dating someone. According to him, she's immature, emotionally unstable, and he is trying to break it off with her. I'll admit it hurt that he was so ambivalent about our relationship yet he’s so willing to date someone who clearly needs help. Meanwhile I'm independent, ambitious, intelligent (in spite of my poor choices in men), very attractive and outgoing.
Though I'm fine with our FWB situation, he recently decided that we shouldn't have sex anymore. Tonight I asked him, "If we don't have sex then what am I getting out of this? Why should I remain friends with you?" He says, "You should be happy that I don't look at you as a sex object but you're not. And it's clear that you see me as just a sex object. So you're telling me that it's just sex? Then forget it! We don't have to be friends if that's all that I meant to you." Then he hung up the phone on me.
My friends think he's crazy. I don't know if --------->
2006-11-18 18:05:38 · update #2
I'm being naive but I never got that from him, before or after we had sex. In my eyes, he is a slightly immature individual who makes poor decisions. I chalked it up to his age hence the reason I didn't want to start anything in the first place. What do you think I should do about this guy? What is your take on his behavior?
I'M SORRY IT'S SO LONG! ;) BUT I APPRECIATE YOUR RESPONSES!
2006-11-18 18:06:29 · update #3
I think you're sort of both unsure and confused. He likes you, you don't like him, then you like him and he switched, next you guys are FWB, then not anymore...theres a definite sexual/physical attraction between you guys but I'm not sure that after all that has happened, you guys can still carry on a great relationship. There's too much complications and difficulties that happened to start a fresh relationship. I think the best way to deal is remain passive, let things simmer down first before talking to each other again. When the time comes that you feel you should talk, both of you should just be honest about your feelings, no pretentions, no pride or expectations, just the truth and what, FINALLY and exactly you Both want to happen. Get closure and stick to it.
2006-11-18 18:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, he has a problem,and yours might even be bigger than his!
You were friends before having sex, but now that you have had sex together, YOU say sex or nothing, no friendship. I wish you would post that on all the places where females blast males, because that is how THEY are!
2006-11-19 02:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dante_of_Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but i think you like him..you are grown up and you should decide your priorities..hes younger..and you have seen him with other girls even when there was a chance of him being in relationship with you..i think he just likes your body..in fact every body! tell him you want a serious relationship (no physical involvement) and see..if a guy doesn't love you from the depth of his heart then its stupid to go mad about him..
2006-11-19 02:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both need to grow up, either you like each other or you don't, try n keep sex out of the conversation, and see where it takes you. Good luck, heh!
2006-11-19 02:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Whatcanbrowndo4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop the whole relationship, it sounds too confusing. That is my "simple" answer. It also sounds like you will get hurt if you stay involved!
2006-11-19 02:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by KMP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you both sound really immature.
2006-11-19 02:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his butt for good
2006-11-19 02:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by dawn_horger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋